Teppy, that blue is just so perfect--you rock the style, and the color will be fantastic on you, with the ring, and with Tim's tie. Until and unless you find an even perfecter dress--and I doubt such exists--that's your dress. Even, as Plei suggests, at tea length.

If you're thinking along the lines of "a bed and breakfast environment isn't going to to be as dressy as all that" I suggest you fully embrace the notion that there is nothing wrong with being over-dressed so long as you are FABULOUSLY over-dressed.

THIS. WORDS OF TRUTH.

I love the blue dress, and I knew which tie Tim had picked out before I even clicked the link.

I'm going to be contrarian and say the first dress for the ceremony and the second dress for everything else, because it's your day and if you've fallen in love with two dresses, you should have two dresses. If you can rock both kinds of pretty, you should.

Plus, costume changes on your wedding day are so very Dita von Teese (but, in your case, with a universes-better groom).

Yes! I agree with the costume changes! I wore two different kimonos, and the SO changed from matching cummerbund to matching vest. My grandmother's philosophy was, "You wear as many pretty dresses as you have on your wedding day."

So I was married in the black kimono, and receptioned in the purple kimono and it was all very fabulous.

OH! Do you have a tiara picked out????

I may just go with Pretty Hair and cool jewelry.

Can we please talk about your wedding some more? It's seriously my happy place right now.

Well, I can't *quite* talk Tim into these as invitations (I know in the example they're save-the-dates, but we don't need save-the-dates, so I think they would be fantastic invitations): [link]

Although maybe we need save-the-dates just so I can send them out. (Our families would look a little askance at them, I know. Except my mom and stepdad. And bro.)

I'm going to be contrarian and say the first dress for the ceremony and the second dress for everything else, because it's your day and if you've fallen in love with two dresses, you should have two dresses. If you can rock both kinds of pretty, you should.

That is tempting, although I'm fairly certain I'm too lazy to run upstairs and change dresses halfway through (and potentially change undergarments and also run the risk of fucking up my hair).

hat is tempting, although I'm fairly certain I'm too lazy to run upstairs and change dresses halfway through (and potentially change undergarments and also run the risk of fucking up my hair).

You should borrow my MOH -- licensed cosmetologist *and* retired stripper. She'd have you fully changed, re-accessorized and back downstairs without a hair out of place in seconds.

OMG, those cards are AWESOME!

I say go for the dress you feel is more you, and keep it on the whole time.

Also, shit! I found a perfect little writing corner in the library (comfy chair, window with a pleasant but boring view, 3-prong plug close at hand, ottoman for perfect slounging, quiet, books everywhere -- medical books about excruciatingly finicky and tedious subspecialties, which tempt me not at all); now I just need to stop wittering and start actually writing.

Well, I can't *quite* talk Tim into these as invitations (I know in the example they're save-the-dates, but we don't need save-the-dates, so I think they would be fantastic invitations): [link].

But you'd fix the punctuation, right?

Only the lack of the Oxford comma. I have an odd fondness for the unpunctuated last line. I blame Dinosaur Comics. (And Wondermark, come to think of it.)