hat is tempting, although I'm fairly certain I'm too lazy to run upstairs and change dresses halfway through (and potentially change undergarments and also run the risk of fucking up my hair).

You should borrow my MOH -- licensed cosmetologist *and* retired stripper. She'd have you fully changed, re-accessorized and back downstairs without a hair out of place in seconds.

OMG, those cards are AWESOME!

I say go for the dress you feel is more you, and keep it on the whole time.

Also, shit! I found a perfect little writing corner in the library (comfy chair, window with a pleasant but boring view, 3-prong plug close at hand, ottoman for perfect slounging, quiet, books everywhere -- medical books about excruciatingly finicky and tedious subspecialties, which tempt me not at all); now I just need to stop wittering and start actually writing.

Well, I can't *quite* talk Tim into these as invitations (I know in the example they're save-the-dates, but we don't need save-the-dates, so I think they would be fantastic invitations): [link].

But you'd fix the punctuation, right?

Only the lack of the Oxford comma. I have an odd fondness for the unpunctuated last line. I blame Dinosaur Comics. (And Wondermark, come to think of it.)

Both dresses are awesome. Changing is a common practice, but not if it adds stress.

Tep, you'd rock this: [link]

Just weave some flowers in it.

Oooh, that is pretty!

I'm going to be contrarian and say the first dress for the ceremony and the second dress for everything else, because it's your day and if you've fallen in love with two dresses, you should have two dresses. If you can rock both kinds of pretty, you should.

I'm with JZ. Plus, weren't you talking about maybe having two weddings? One dress for each!

I have had two igigi dresses, and they are crazy flattering and also comfortable. FWIW.