"If it's the victim's fault, it can't happen to me."
Not exactly, more of a generational thing. Two of the three are black and grew up in the neighborhood (and the other grew up on a naval base in CA and was perma-grounded). You know, they start trading stories about getting they ass whupped by the neighbor round the corner and having to go pick out a switch and shit like that. There was a moment of silence when I pointed out that kids who get beat at home are the bullies at school, but it didn't last long.
They were also drunk. And two were high. Well, high-ish. Buzzed.
This country is failing black men and boys in the most horrifying way, I don't even know how we can walk back from this.
No fucking kidding. Such a horrific mess, and I kind of shudder to think what the next generation will be like, being raised by this generation. In god knows what kind of environment. With the poverty and the violence and the shitty schools and the lead in the soil and the corruption and the drugs and and and...
It's not for the faint of heart.
Yeah. I understand why people shut down, close off, move away. I think one of the things that bothers me most is that getting punished for snitching is a real thing here. Like, here in this neighborhood. Uggh.
I am not even kidding when I say I am turning to Buddhism to develop and deepen my capacity for compassion. You gotta have some special fucking zen to live here.
Right. Shower. Bed. I just sent the potential
colocataire
an offer to drop his rent to $425 if he signs a 6-mo lease instead of going month to month. Keep yer fingers crossed.
Hmph. He says he'll tell me by Sunday lunch and asks if i can hold it until then. Hmph.
Ow. I must have rolled over on my shoulder wrong while I was sleeping, because I woke up with a ton of pain. I'm TENSing it now. Very glad that I finished class prep stuff yesterday, so i don't need to get to campus until after lunch.
Can you point out that if you wait till Sunday afternoon and he says no, that puts you in a bad position WRT being able to show the place to other people, given that's the last weekend before the end of the month? Because, that's not really fair.
I'd recommend posting an ad about it today and if other people want to check it out tomorrow and Sunday morning, that's cool, and you can make a decision after he lets you know what he wants to do. You can even say if he decides to take it, he can have it, but you need to line up other prospects in case he says no.
On the lighter side, one of our local bloggers periodically posts a picture and asks for captions. The most recent one showed a couple of teenage boys sitting on a couch that's out by the curb. The "winning" caption:
Mom’s Craigslist Post:
FREE couch, end table, lamp, and two irritating teenage boys. Already on the curb ready for pickup and in pretty good condition. On T st between 14th and 15th.
I would just say I'll see what I can do, and move forward with showing the place.
If you get a better option before then, then go with it, or at most tell the other option that you'll let them know on Sunday, and then choose who is best for you.
Thanks, Ginger. I am about to go to lunch with DH.
One of the girls in my office turns 18 today so I am treating us both to mani/pedi this afternoon. (and no, I won't dock her for the time missed because I am not a meanyhead)
Laura is a very nice boss
Happy Birthday, Laura! And you are an awesome boss!
