But I'm pretty sure divorced people can't have a Catholic wedding, right? Because the Church doesn't recognize divorce?
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Nora Deirdre - Feb 21, 2013 6:46:25 am PST #26556 of 30001
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
sj - Feb 21, 2013 6:47:59 am PST #26557 of 30001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
But I'm pretty sure divorced people can't have a Catholic wedding, right? Because the Church doesn't recognize divorce?
No, if the first wedding wasn't in the Catholic Church, the Church doesn't recognize that you were married at all, so you can be married in the Church even if you're divorced.
Steph L. - Feb 21, 2013 6:49:50 am PST #26558 of 30001
I look more rad than Lutheranism
I don't think we could even get married in a Catholic church, now that I think about it. I had a friend who married a divorced man -- his first wedding was not a Catholic wedding (they belonged to some other Protestant denomination), but if my friend and this fella wanted their marriage to be performed by a priest, her guy was going to have to get his previous, NON-CATHOLIC marriage annulled through the Catholic church.
I don't even get how that works. It's like exchanging currency, or something.
Anyway, unless Church law has changed, Tim would have to get his first (non-Catholic) marriage annulled through the Catholic church in order for us to get married in the church.
No thank you. (I guess I should check on that.)
Steph L. - Feb 21, 2013 6:51:20 am PST #26559 of 30001
I look more rad than Lutheranism
That's a funny x-post. The wedding I'm referring to was 10-12 years ago, so maybe church law has changed since then. (I'm positive that the priest told them they'd have to have his non-Catholic marriage annulled. I'm not misremembering.)
sj - Feb 21, 2013 6:51:35 am PST #26560 of 30001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
I don't think we could even get married in a Catholic church, now that I think about it. I had a friend who married a divorced man -- his first wedding was not a Catholic wedding (they belonged to some other Protestant denomination), but if my friend and this fella wanted their marriage to be performed by a priest, her guy was going to have to get his previous, NON-CATHOLIC marriage annulled through the Catholic church.
Really? I have never heard of that. Maybe it is something that is up to the discretion of the individual priest? Either way, it is definitely a money maker for the Church.
Nora Deirdre - Feb 21, 2013 6:52:05 am PST #26561 of 30001
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
Maybe Tim can just be like, dude, Dad, I'm divorced, remember? No Catholic wedding for us!
Amy - Feb 21, 2013 6:52:46 am PST #26562 of 30001
Because books.
Stephen would have liked a priest at our wedding, but even to do that we were told we had to go through Pre-Cana, and by the time we thought about it, we didn't have enough time.
Nora Deirdre - Feb 21, 2013 6:52:58 am PST #26563 of 30001
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
erikaj - Feb 21, 2013 6:55:07 am PST #26564 of 30001
Always Anti-fascist!
I think I agree with you tep, in re: band-aide ripping. Because, without it, the priest will, I don't know, "just say hi, because it's been so long," and because he remembers when he and Dad were starting out and all that "Sunrise, Sunset" kind of crap, and next thing, you have a wedding you don't recognize.
Steph L. - Feb 21, 2013 6:56:20 am PST #26565 of 30001
I look more rad than Lutheranism
Oooh, yeah, no, we wouldn't be able to be married Catholic for SEVERAL reasons according to this: [link]
Tim was married before (even though it wasn't Catholic, they don't give a crap), we've been shacking up for 5 years and I have no intent of "living apart" (although I know lots of people who lived together and still got married in the church, so whatevs), I'm pretty sure Tim was never baptized, and we don't qualify as "in good standing" with the Catholic church.
So, no.
But I'll let Tim handle that conversation with his dad.