This all sounds good, sj. I hope she'll be able to give you practical help.

Oh, I am about to call my BFF and get catty about her sister-in-law.

I'm not normally catty. This is an unusual event. I'm gonna bask in the Jersey-Shore normalcy of it.

I knew it was one of the nicer areas - she's not pressed for funds. But she's not going to be able to drive herself ... and this is an active woman (she's been working with a personal trainer, with remarkable results, which contributed to her injury not being worse).

There are totally services that do this. And individuals (I did in college) but with a service you get someone checked out and they can be sure there is insurance and nothing creepy on a background check.

I'm glad I gave my therapist another shot. I really liked her this time, and even though it is kind of a pain in the ass to get to her office, I'm going to keep seeing her.

That's really good to hear, sj.

His is going to have to be something indestructible, since he works in a warehouse

If there is even a smallish chance something that could happen where it would need to be cut off, get something that you just know you are going to have to replace every so often.

There's titanium that is really strong.

Carbon fiber is amazing but if it breaks, it breaks in sharp shards. Now, most people would never be in a position to break carbon fiber but depends on what Tim will do with it.

Carbon fiber is amazing but if it breaks, it breaks in sharp shards.

Does carbon fiber do that, or tungsten carbide? (We were talking about materials, and Tim has tools that are tungsten -- which seems totally impractical -- and they shatter when they're broken.)

Carbon fiber does shatter. They make open-wheel race cars from it. It's crazy strong until it shatters and then it's crazy sharp shards.

I know he works in a warehouse so clearly needs tough but is he ever in danger of having the ring crushed or his fingers trapped? You might want to go with something tough but accept that you replace it in a decade if there's a need. If something bad happens, you'd rather replace a ring than hurt Tim, obviously.

Toddson, here is one resource:

LINK TRANSPORTATION, The County Connection

The Central Contra Costa Transit Authority (CCCTA) is your transit provider within central Contra Costa County. LINK is an advance reservation, dial-a-ride service. In order to be eligible for LINK service, it must be determined that you are eligible for paratransit services under the Americans with Disability Act. Call (925) 676-1976, x601 or x608 to have application materials sent to you.

You might want to go with something tough but accept that you replace it in a decade if there's a need.

I'm totally cool with that. He was the one thinking about carbon fiber. Possibly because it seems more badass.

I'ma just get him a big pimp ring.

Wedding band tattoo!

My former father-in-law lost his ring finger when his wedding ring got caught in machinery, so my ex wore his ring on a chain most of the time.

I am culling books. It might not be the most useful decluttering I can do, but the books have overflowed the shelves, so they're in the way of doing anything else. So many of them would net only about 75 cents online. I think I'll be better off donating them.

My grandfather never wore his wedding ring because of where he worked. He started wearing it after he retired and lost it within a week.