omnis, no matter what, I think your mom deserves to know there might be more to his background than she realizes. Show what Googling turned up, and let her take it from there.
What should I do, then? Send her a gift? Sacrifice? … Unholy fruit basket?
Angel ,'Just Rewards (2)'
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Amy - Jan 18, 2013 7:49:29 am PST #25175 of 30001
Because books.
Strix - Jan 18, 2013 8:05:39 am PST #25176 of 30001
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger
Agreed. Those 3 offenses -- not 1, THREE -- listed are not just a red flag; they are a fucking California king-sized quilt of HELL NO. They are violent sexual crimes against women.
Once may be an error; 3 times? Not for my money.
I feel badly for you and your mom; I believe in compassion. But in this case, err on the side of caution. If you're wrong about him, you can feel guilty. But I don't think think the information is wrong, and he is not someone you want your mother -- or any woman you care about -- to be involved with.
Maria - Jan 18, 2013 8:27:59 am PST #25177 of 30001
Not so nice is that I'm about to ruin a Friday morning for a bunch of people because of a series of unfortunate events and an upset foreign government. - shrift
o-a, take a look at the sections of the CA penal code he was charged with violating. They are NOT statutory rape violations. Force and drugging were involved. And if he's listed in the Megan's Law database, he has been convicted.
Disregard the two mug shots. Even if you rely solely on the Megan's Law DB info, he is a violent offender.
Also, if your community finds out you allow a registered sex offender in your house, it could create trouble. Is it right? No, but unfortunately it will probably happen.
Glamcookie - Jan 18, 2013 9:07:45 am PST #25178 of 30001
I know my own heart and understand my fellow man. But I am made unlike anyone I have ever met. I dare to say I am like no one in the whole world. - Anne Lister
Also, didn't one of the convictions specifically mention that the victim was 14 or 15?
Amy - Jan 18, 2013 9:23:13 am PST #25179 of 30001
Because books.
Scrappy, I'm so sorry. That sucks.
sj - Jan 18, 2013 9:35:16 am PST #25180 of 30001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Le nubian, or anyone else, have you ever actually used that people search pro website you linked to earlier. Because the friend I am looking for comes up on there, but I was wondering if I would get scammed if I paid the money to get her current contact information.
JZ - Jan 18, 2013 9:37:06 am PST #25181 of 30001
See? I gave everybody here an opportunity to tell me what a bad person I am and nobody did, because I fuckin' rule.
Didn't Laura say that one of the folks who works for her does people searches regularly and would know which sites are worth the effort? Maybe wait until she checks back in.
Oh, Scrappy, that sucks and is thoroughly incomprehensible. What kind of idiot would have their very own Scrappy on their staff and let her go? An incomprehensible idiot.
sj - Jan 18, 2013 9:38:55 am PST #25182 of 30001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Didn't Laura say that one of the folks who works for her does people searches regularly and would know which sites are worth the effort? Maybe wait until she checks back in.
Thanks, JZ. I can wait.
meara - Jan 18, 2013 9:47:21 am PST #25183 of 30001
Well, I was laid off. Never had that happen to me before...although I did get one month severance. If anyone knows anyone in the L.A. area who might want a fabulous HR person, let me know.
Oh Scrappy!! How do they lay off the HR person!?! (Also one month of severance is kinda shitty--but make sure you apply for unemployment!!). I hope you find something awesome. Know that I've been there many times, and it has sucked each time, but there were good things at the end.
Dana - Jan 18, 2013 9:55:34 am PST #25184 of 30001
I'm terrifically busy with my ennui.
Scrappy, what the hell!