This:

Doing a deed doesn't remove your ability to judge the rightness of the deed. You just acknowledge that you don't always act in perfect righteousness.

And this:

it's totally okay to feel outraged on your friend's behalf, even if there's something in your past you're not completely proud of.

Definitely help me re-frame stuff in my head. Thanks!

In hilarious timing, the person who borrowed my corset and didn't return it for months and months just texted me "Hey chica! Can you call me tonight? Need to talk before the weekend!"

I literally never talk to her or text with her or e-mail her or otherwise communicate with her unless I bump into her at a gathering. So I'm assuming it's another can-I-borrow-your-corset request.

It's only hilarious timing because my mood is so foul. It'll make it a lot easier to say No and not feel bad about it. (I won't be a dick; that's not what I mean. I'm not taking my mood out on someone who doesn't deserve it. But my mood makes it easier to not be so easily manipulated by a whiny "But pleeeeeease???")

Seriously? Some people really are like bad pennies, aren't they?

Tep,

I understand whatever guilt you are feeling, but I am thinking right now the wife friend needs all the support she can get. So if you can help her through the next several months, karmic debt paid!

BTW, if husband now considers himself gay and bf still has gf, is bf leaving gf, or is gay husband dating a bi man?

BTW, if husband now considers himself gay and bf still has gf, is bf leaving gf, or is gay husband dating a bi man?

Boyfriend and Girlfriend are both bisexual and poly and currently already have other partners (in addition to each other, AND in addition to Husband [in the case of Boyfriend]). I don't know how they do it without a Franklin Planner.

OMG!

Well, bless. They have a lot more energy than I do.

Seriously.

I don't know how they do it without a Franklin Planner.

Someone should create a multiple partner Franklin Planner, with inserts for parental visitation schedules.

If only people without sin had the right to pass judgment, the judicial system would collapse. Also, he lied specifically about the situation, both to his wife and to you, who thought he was a friend.

Well, bless. They have a lot more energy than I do.

Sloths are polygamous. Galapagos tortoises too. I guess if one has even two spoons, one has the option of not putting them all in one basket.

If only people without sin had the right to pass judgment, the judicial system would collapse.

So would pretty much any attempt at parenting. "Let he who is without tantrums cast the first time-out."

Galapagos tortoises too.

They live over a century. That's a long time with just one tortoise. Gotta shake things up in the shell to keep it fresh.