Spike's Bitches 47: Someone Dangerous Could Get In
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
anything bigger than that was a waste
There's nothing like admitting up front that you have no sexual imagination. Any part of your lover's body is a waste, it highlights that you don't know what to do with it.
I would like my boobs a lot better if they didn't need pricey bras to make sure they don't look inappropriate, uncomfortable, or dowdy. Also if I had any idea of when I'm crossing the line into "too little support/restraint". But that's absolutely not a question my family will give candid feedback on. It turns into an "I can't do that with my boobs!" conversation.
Which, you know what? There are a lot of hangups that come from inside and out, and it's not like mammary anxiety is inherently a genetic issue, or something that springs up independently amongst a bunch of women who weren't raised in similar environments.
I'm not blaming the world, or blaming the menfolk, just...bodies are charged, women's bodies are charged, and secondary sexual characteristics are super charged. The groundwork is well-laid, and the soil is very fertile, where the slightest windblown seed can take root.
I know what that's like...it sucks.
Myth busters new book?
Oh, that's a good one for my son.
I am hanging with Mom waiting for step-dad to have hernia surgery. He had them repaired in the 60s, but it didn't hold. He is way more concerned about being a burden to my mom than he is about himself. We are sitting outside and she is walking around the building to stretch her legs. I am so grateful for her good health. 91 looks good on her.
askye, I'm sorry if your dad doesn't realize how beautiful you are. That's a really hard thing for you to be carrying around. I don't know your dad, so I can't say I'm sure it's not true, but I really hope it's not.
What Kate said, absolutely. Damn.
I've heard "more than a mouthful is a waste."
KBD used to say this*, and my response was, "Only if you waste it."
There's nothing like admitting up front that you have no sexual imagination. Any part of your lover's body is a waste, it highlights that you don't know what to do with it.
...but I think ita's response might be my new favorite.
I'm pretty good with my boobs. Right now I'm annoyed because my bras are kind of too big due to my recent weight loss and I can't afford to buy new ones, but whatevs.
Laura, glad to hear your mom is well and best wishes to your stepdad.
I am home because it was pouring this morning so we delayed work. I fought the urge to go back to bed and got a lentil soup in the slow cooker for dinner and did a bunch of other little things. Now it's clearing up and I *really* don't want to go to work but I can't afford not to. So, deep breaths and baby steps.
* On a semi-related note, every time I listen to or read a story about a woman in an abusive relationship, I get chills because it feels so familiar. Uggh. Have I said thank you lately to y'all for supporting me and helping me finally GTFO and Dump That Asshole? Because THANK YOU.
Reading all of this makes me appreciate my family so much. It's not perfect by any means, but any body issues I had/have were self-taught (or taught by society). And I have seen pics or met all of you and you are all beautiful people! I hate that anyone has to view themselves through the eyes of an abusive family member/SO/etc. Oh, and FTR, I have great breasts! Hahahahahaha!
ION, I am just so bone weary. I'm seriously considering going back on my ADs just because I can't face life this sleep deprived. I stayed off ADs during my first pregnancy and it wasn't that bad. This time I can't sleep for half the night because of my pregnancy and I can't sleep for the other half because of my toddler. I am not feeling happy or like I have any patience or anything lately. Honestly, if I could just get some decent sleep, I think everything would change. But that is going to get worse before it gets better. I really want to be AD free during pregnancy, but I don't know if I can go another 5 months like this.
Maybe sleeping pills instead, GC? I hear there are some that are pregnancy-ok
Maybe sleeping pills would help, but I'd feel guilty leaving all of the nighttime parenting to DW (thought honestly, she is doing about 95% of it currently). We've been talking about buying a toddler or twin bed to put next to our bed for Shane. She mentioned we should go ahead and get a twin and then if S doesn't use it, I can bail out in the night and sleep in it. Maybe that's something to try. All I know is something's gotta give.
GC,
you might find this a wacky suggestion, but would you try acupuncture? You need to go to someone experienced, and someone who knows you are pregnant, but I bet that could help with your sleeping issues.
Pregnancy Yoga might help too.
I actually have done acupuncture before and found it to be super relaxing. The woman I went to was great. Maybe I should contact her and see what she says. My only reservation is that it's not cheap, and when I went due to back pain during my first pregnancy, it didn't help long-term. I'd be pain-free during the session and for a little while after, but usually the pain was back within 24 hours. Sigh.
GC, I think everyone has to do what works for them, but I have an extra bed in my bedroom. It lets me have some space and get some sleep. I was just talking to my mom this weekend about converting my "dining room" into a sort of office because we never use the dining room. My point to her was that houses are designed with specific mandated uses for the rooms, but I shouldn't feel required to make my home look "like it's supposed to." Hence, the second bed in the bedroom. It looks weird and it took me a bit to get over that, but it works very well for me getting the best sleep, which is important.
eta: since le n mentioned yoga, there is an app (I can't remember if you are an iphone person but i'm thinking yes? anyway...) the app has all sorts of pregnancy yoga videos. I found it to be incredibly relaxing and great with aches and pains when I was pregnant with Sammy. I bet you could find it by looking under "pregnancy yoga Tara Lee" on the App store.