Dana, post is marked.

meara, yes.

javachik, thanks, I'll ping her.

Nora, it was not quite the relaxing time I'd hoped for. K's HS friends' husbands started messing with me from minute one, and I just wasn't in the mood. So I had one beer and came home. Time for bed.

Thanks for the love, y'all.

Good luck, smonster. I am absolute crap with budgets, so I have no helpful advice. I hope you sleep well.

Practically every time I've watched an old episode of this show and then googled the family, though, I've found articles about how the house was falling apart or things didn't work right or the new house ended up creating a bunch of new stress, which seems like the worst thing for someone with PTSD.

Yeah, the home makeover house they did out here on the rez was a serious disaster.

Meant to say, knowing what I know about how long building or even renovating a house generally takes? I am saddened but not surprised at all. My uncle actually did HVAC work on a house they did in Savannah, I wonder what he thinks of it all.

I believe rent or mortgage at about one-third of paycheck is about right, actually. I am pretty good with budgets, so if you need help, I am happy to provide it.

smonster I think most financial resources say your housing should be 30% of your income. I'm not sure if that includes utilities so it sounds like you are doing okay.

I think some places say it should be 25% but I think a lot of it depends on where you live.

I am terrible with budgets and my impulse control is really bad.

One book you may want to read is Money The Missing Manual by JD Robb, has some good info. He has runs a blog - Get Rich Slowly - getrichslowly.org. He has different bloggers doing articles so there's a variety of info/POV plus he does Reader Stories. and the comments are usually robust and interesting. However, there are some people with fairly...conservative views on certain issues. One blogger did an article on DYI health and beauty products. Based on some people's reactions you would have thought she suggested everyone bath in kitten blood.

but I only need to use it occasionally for allergies, so I haven't had a chance to build up a tolerance.

Ah, the promised land of fewer allergies, I like that land and want to live there. Where Benedryl wasn't needed to even pretend to breathe.

I am excellent with other advice, but shite with financials, smonster, but one thing I can say is I feel horrible that several of my favorite Buffistas need help and I can't give it right now

TAKE THAT OFF YOUR STRESS LIST, MISSY!!

People give what they can, WHEN THEY CAN!!! If you feel guilty about that when you are in a financial mess, I will astral-travel to NOLA and thwap you!!! There will be plenty of opps to help out when you are in a better place -- you can't help others when your cup is empty!!!

MWAH!

Ah, the promised land of fewer allergies, I like that land and want to live there.

Alas, I had to move 600 miles to reach that land.

Yeah, I could use the Megan Walker advice too, probably. The SO has been pulling a ton of part time hours, but I think that made us both feel like there was extra money, not that it was makeup income for the store being closed. So we overdrew yesterday in all our giddy storm prep, which means that he's going back out in it today to work, which makes me unhappy.

So you're not alone, smonster.

And about the giftees, I feel differently about that. I know I can't afford the finances right now, but I feel happy that the collective we is giving.

Have I mentioned lately that Buffistas are the best? Megan already responded. And y'all are just chock full of resources.

One choice at a time, right? I just dropped the McWarnigles at the airport and had some time to kill before the market opens... Instead of wandering Walgreens or Family Dollar, I pulled over and am hanging out in a park.