As Kate said (more or less) I'm not in charge of how people feel, but and if it helps you post that's a good thing.
But the flip side is it makes the case that your problems really are too small, that on their own they're secondary and not worth sympathy. So, by extension maybe mine aren't either? It's insidious. (And for women, a message we get in far too many places as it is.)
(Universal "your", of course.) I don't know how to reconcile those things.
Anyway. I'm (genuinely) sorry I'm so worked up about this and hope it doesn't make anyone's toes feel stepped on. But I'm realizing more how bothered I am. We're invoking the FPC when talking about family members with cancer FFS.
I find it so contrary to the what the spirit of this place, this thread especially, have been over the years. That's probably why I'm reacting so strongly.
[I shut up now.]
I will definitely let you know whenever we have a little extra time!
I love brenda so much right now. Somebody make her veep of something, quick.
Yeah, but when people are posting about potential death and major pain and suffering and true financial crisis I feel like I need to acknowledge that somehow if I'm going to post about a nose bleed. If it were not for being able to invoke the FPC I'd feel completely insensitive for bitching about anything not on that scale. The FPC to me is not an apology. It is a way to acknowledge I'm posting about a problem on a smaller scale than other problems discussed here. By invoking FPC, I'm avoiding the need to apologize. And if you are in better mental health in that area than I am and don't need to invoke the FPC clause go you! But it is really helpful to me.
By invoking FPC, I'm avoiding the need to apologize. And if you are in better mental health in that area than I am and don't need to invoke the FPC clause go you! But it is really helpful to me.
That's kinda how I am right now. I am also waiting for this current swing of depression to get to the part where I have the invincible exoskeleton and I can go touch a Jillifont, but I don't know it that will happen.
(To be PERFECTLY CLEAR, I don't have any urge to go touch a Jillifont. Ever. Invincible emotional exoskeleton or no.)
Hairpats galore, Jilli. Dramatic hairpats, even.
Y'all don't even want to hear about my hangnails. I have them on every nail, bad. Comes with the job.
I am home from work and once again trying to make my sacral vertebrae stop grinding against each other. I had to bring work home, too, which makes me hella cranky.
I'm staying here for Thanksgiving. No specific plans yet - I suppose I should get on that.
My supervisor met individually with three of my five direct reports today. The feedback on the job and me was mostly positive, so that's good. I need to do better about clueing them in to the big picture and managing my stress so it doesn't overflow onto them. And watch out for micromanaging. All of which I think is valid.
Dude, a nosebleed you have *to have stopped* fucking counts. Especially if I can't be like "Gar, rethink your OTP with cocaine...she doesn't love you back!" I can't, right?
Nope, never touched nose candy. And yeah a nosebleed you have to have cauterized counts. It is just that if this was an ouch contest I would totally lose. And probably be in the bottom 20%. I'm not saying it is right. I'm saying if it were not for the FPC I would not have been able to post about it. The weird thing, and I'm totally not saying it is rational, a diamond shoes too tight thing is something I can post about. Cause that is so part of Spike's Bitches culture that I would not think twice. But real pain that does not represent major suffering? For that I need ghd FPC. We all, well most of us, have our neurosis. This is one of mine.
Yeah, but when people are posting about potential death and major pain and suffering and true financial crisis I feel like I need to acknowledge that somehow if I'm going to post about a nose bleed. If it were not for being able to invoke the FPC I'd feel completely insensitive for bitching about anything not on that scale.
It's not insensitive to have the problems that you ("you" = "anybody") have. Everyone's problems are real, and valid, no matter the (perceived) scale.
I really don't think anyone here has ever fallen into the trap of "Oh, your loved one has cancer? That's NOTHING compared to my hangnail!" Seriously. This is not a place where insensitivity runs rampant.
