I'm just trying to decline her request as politely as possible, so my instinct is to go with an explanation, rather than just an unmitigated refusal.
How about: "No, sorry, thanks to some bad experiences I've decided not to lend out my things anymore." Danged if I'd go to the trouble of providing websites/info on buying her own; if she intended to buy one, she could have done it already.
I hate pictures of myself too. My mental image of myself has not been updated since I was 25, and the dissonance between that and reality is painful. I'm working on accepting a truer version of me.
Scrappy, good news! What a relief!
Condo update. Flooring is complete!!
Yay omnis!
More ME stuff! Family crisis drama update! After a lovely weekend away, I came back to a phone call from my sister that quickly went back to the Drama, which rather harshed my mellow. Seems the girl apologized to her mom (but not to me, of course) so they're all fine now. My sister is concerned about having cosigned such a large loan, but I didn't feel like reassuring her. I said I was basically done, that I'd give her anything she asked me for (emphasis on asking; I'll no longer volunteer anything including words) except money, but I wouldn't try to "mediate" or be a buffer between them anymore, and don't ask me to take her to lunch and try to sneak some good advice into the conversation anymore, either. My sister wasn't happy with that, but seemed to accept it. Ten minutes later she called back to talk about it some more, and I lost it. My version of "losing it" does not involve screaming, throwing things, or heaping abuse upon people who love me, which I guess means I must be adopted. For me, losing it means crying and telling the truth. I told her I meant it, that I'd been abused enough in my life and no one is going to treat me like that again, not even my emotionally fragile niece. I actually got my sister to hush and listen to me, which I believe has only happened once before in my life. Today she texted me with "Sorry about last night but glad you told me," so I think my ultimatum, such as it was, is accepted. In short, I really am done with dealing with my niece. I'll be friendly at family gatherings and not see her otherwise, and I truly don't think she'll even notice that I've withdrawn from her life.
(Standard disclaimer: my sister is a wonderful person and I love her a lot. She just has Issues regarding these, um, issues.)
Stephanie, I'm so sorry for your friend; ~ma to her.
Zenkitty, I'm sorry that your niece keeps bringing the drama.
I miss the night shift. The board gets quiet very early these days.
Zenkitty, so proud of you for drawing a boundary. Good on ya.
Not pregnant. Yay. Thanks for support and info.
Hil, is it possible there was a glitch? Or are they definitely separate emails.
Hil, is it possible there was a glitch? Or are they definitely separate emails.
Definitely separate emails. Different subjects, but same body text. And at least one of these students has done the repeat email thing before.
Not pregnant. Yay. Thanks for support and info.
Yay! I'm very much hoping for the opposite result in a few days.
Hil, how dare you not respond to every e-mail within five minutes of getting it.
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That's a relief, smonster. And for you, sj, hope you find very different results.
Hopefully the POAS~ma will work its magic producing different but just as fervently wished results for you, sj!
DUDE, I just saw the biggest bug I have ever seen and living in New Orleans, THAT IS SAYING SOMETHING.
I've been ASSCAPPING about it ALL OVER THE INTERNET!
