If it was my head , Matt would tell me to go and Nag me. If it was Matt's head he would not go .

If you aren't feeling woozy or dizzy and it isn't worse ... but if it isn't better in the morning..I don't know.

{{Sean}}

I am having a moment of "Damn, that's stupid - even for you, Self!" and I can't post it anywhere else so ya'll are getting subjected to my randomness once again.

Our friends have 2 year old daughter. She is all of the nice and awesome things toddlers are and she has ginormous blond curls that I would have killed for as a teenager. Anyway, they dress her in what they call gender neutral, which means they just buy clothes for her, they don't care if it's "boy" or "girl" clothes.

Now, in theory, I totally get it and agree with it. Buying kids clothes is freaking spendy and while they are of an age in which they don't, typically, have much of an opinion of what they wear? Put 'em in whatever fits and is appropriate for the weather conditions.

In practice? Well, the latest picture of her is in a green dinosaur t-shirt and plaid Bermuda shorts and she is just cute as a button (as per usual) but I'm looking at her, and all of the other pictures of her in other clothes, and I'm thinking, "For the love of Mike! Will you put that child in something girly! Let her be a *girl*!"

(Now before I get jumped on for gender stuff, I want to caveat this with - I *KNOW*. I. *KNOW*. I am wrong. She is no less a girl because of her clothes. It's just my surface reaction. How I come out on the other end is more logical and in agreement with her parents and less pure my aesthetically based.)

You need to examine why you want to force gender essentialism on this poor toddler, Aimee! Boo! It's a societal construct! Don't be a slave to the kyriarchy (sp?)!

Do you feel better now?

Seriously, though, if she wants to dress girly when she gets older I expect she will.

Steph, hope that head of yours feels better. Sounds like a bad bruise, esp with the coloration. I've had bruises like that before, ones that don't hurt much the first couple days but then get all tender when the color appears. I am a klutz so I bruise a lot.

Sean, I'm sorry to hear about your grandmother, and about your difficulties with your father.

Thanks, Hec. I know I shouldn't *care* what the hell they dress her in (and really, I truly don't), but my ingrained, bone deep, stereotypical girlyness is so hard to let go of sometimes.

Wait until she's old enough to voice her opinions on her clothes, Aims. It'll come soon enough. I dressed Liv in lots of black and gender neutral stuff but low and behold, the girly girl erupted when she got to pick her own outfits.

WRT head bruising, I sprained my ankle last monday and didn't see the first sign of a bruise until saturday. Now much of my foot is angry, electric purple and has that uber sore "ouch, bruise!" feel. So it may just be that coming out late...but anything head-related I'm all for getting checked by medical professionals ASAP. As Cass noted, brains are best spicy but not scrambled.

I'm sorry about your grandmother, Sean.

Ah, Sean, I'm sorry to hear about your grandmother.

Aims, she's two. Just remember, she's two, and it sounds like her preferences in clothes will be respected by her folks when she expresses them, so she may well go into a super-femme stage soon, and they will support it.

I looked like a boy(hair, clothes, etc) from birth to 4th grade (by my own tomboyish farm-raised self) and look how I turned out!

Teppy, when I fell and whacked my head, the bone bruise on my temple took a couple of days to kick in, and it hurt like a son-of-a-bitch. It also ached for a fairly long time after that.