All y'all introverts and friends-become-dates people are weird to me.
Yeah. I mean, it's logical and all but attraction doesn't develop over time for me. I guess I could try not making out with people I'm attracted to... but it doesn't seem likely at this point.
P-C, what askye said about being aware of your thoughts and fantasies and being kind to yourself. I am like you in my impatience and tendency to see possibilities for relationships. I mean, y'all witness my cray cray all of the time. You know. I do believe it's part of my temperament (ENFP, hai), but that doesn't mean I'm not aware of the problematic aspects and try to mitigate them.
Wanting. To. Be. Friends. Before. Dating. Which is how some BUT NOT ALL people figure out *if* they're totally into someone
And I think that's perfectly fine, if that's how you function. However, I feel like you can't pin your hopes on someone being that way. I think that you just have to let it go, and then decide whether you are interested in friendship ON ITS OWN, NOT hoping for dating. And if dating happens to later occur, great. But you can't be like "I will make efforts to be friends with her in hopes that she will change her mind/decide that I am dateworthy!" because THAT is exactly what the annoying Nice Guys TM are all about.
I mean, it's logical and all but attraction doesn't develop over time for me. I guess I could try not making out with people I'm attracted to... but it doesn't seem likely at this point.
Hahahah. I am as smonster on this.
And don't date Lex Luthor.
Well, that would be badass. It's up to you.
World domination
does
sound like fun...
And don't date Lex Luthor.
Gotta say, there IS some super-hot fanfic out there about this possibility. (Well, about dating Lex Luthor. NSM about P-C dating Lex Luthor). So, could be fun...and EEEEVIL.
World domination does sound like fun...
That's what they all say right before they end up in the Phantom Zone.
attraction doesn't develop over time for me
Me either. I know within five seconds of meeting someone if I'm ever going to want to get skin-to-skin with them. Usually it's Not, because I'm that way. Sometimes it's Maybe, but I can shrug and forget about it pretty quick if it goes nowhere. I'm trying to recall if there's ever been anyone I wanted to sex up so bad I couldn't stop thinking about it/them, and I don't think so. Real people in real life, I mean; fantasy people in my head don't count! There have certainly been people that I pursued in the moment, but honestly, in those moments I'm usually drunk. Not that I don't meet pretty people when I'm sober; I'm just more reserved and kind of wary.
All of which means my life experiences probably won't be of any help to P.-C. at all.
I mean, it's logical and all but attraction doesn't develop over time for me. I guess I could try not making out with people I'm attracted to... but it doesn't seem likely at this point.
The idea of being attracted to someone enough to want to make out with them without having had multiple conversations with them on multiple occasions is completely foreign to me.
Pete and I were friends before we started dating. BUT when we first met, my immediate thought was,
"Hey, cute guy from England just started working here! But I have a boyfriend. Still, fun to talk to!"
(Apparently Pete's first reaction was,
"Wow, crazy goth girl with big hair. She's cute. Wow, GOTH.")
World domination does sound like fun...
I know, right?!
