And found a speed dating event around the corner from work next week... haven't signed up for it... yet...
Doooooo iiiiiiiiit.
Kate, by the way, you're right in that I was placing more importance on it than warranted, but you may also be overestimating the amount of importance I was putting on it. I went to a dating event, so I tried to get a date out of it. The whole reason my reaction was "meh" was because I was trying not to care too much if she did or didn't want to go out on a date. So she does not, whatever. Maybe she will after a game night or five, maybe she won't. No big deal. I have a friend I would like to ask out and a potential future wife to e-mail.
I'm going to Drinking Liberally this week.
I've been looking into doing the same. No idea of the relative age of the group out here yet.
Y'all are light years ahead of me on the dating front. Ok, I've been on a couple of "audition style" first dates with no second dates. Part of me is hoping that volunteering for the Dems will help me meet a like minded single guy. Could happen, right?
P-C, while in the shower, I had a silly thought about your situation. And forgive me, I'm not making light of the situation, or trying to nag or anything. But I saw a little irony, in that it seems you are wanting an "just add water and love will bloom" situation, which is kinda like an arranged marriage would have.
(runs and hides)
Seriously. What I think we both need is a like minded wingman. You coming down this way anytime soon? If we both went to a speed dating thing, I'd guess it'd be nice to have a friend in the room to ease the anxiety. (Not to use that as an excuse to not go to the one next week).
Kate, by the way, you're right in that I was placing more importance on it than warranted, but you may also be overestimating the amount of importance I was putting on it. I went to a dating event, so I tried to get a date out of it. The whole reason my reaction was "meh" was because I was trying not to care too much if she did or didn't want to go out on a date. So she does not, whatever. Maybe she will after a game night or five, maybe she won't. No big deal. I have a friend I would like to ask out and a potential future wife to e-mail.
Fair enough. I still think the game night could be fun!
All y'all introverts and friends-become-dates people are weird to me.
Especially if you are going to an event that is FOR DATING. IJS.
Possibly I'm burned by the last couple times I dated and the buffistas were like "no, I'm sure that doesn't mean she's not interested!" and lo, it sure did mean just that.
I still think the game night could be fun!
Totally! I am always up for game nights!
Especially if you are going to an event that is FOR DATING. IJS.
That is what is confusing me. I went to a dating event. Why is it weird to, at least initially, try for a date? I mean...isn't that why one goes to a dating event?
I don't think the issue is "try for a date," really. I think the issue is what your expectations seem to be for meeting that date. The key thing to remember here is that the women you're interacting with are fully formed people with their own ideas and motivations. Shift the focus from what they will/can be to you. Instead try to learn about them.
Of course no one wants P-C to be that "Nice Guy" who is only interested in a girl as "will she be a girlfriend for me? No? Moving on to the next lady!"
But reading everyone saying "OMG, no, she could still totally be into you! Not responding to you asking her out and mentioning a group activity could totally mean she's shy or slow or wants to be friends before dating!!" makes me feel like you're encouraging him to KEEP trying to date her, y'know? Whereas I feel like a healthy "OK, maybe she's not into me, I asked her out BECAUSE WE MET AT A DATING EVENT (note: That's kinda key), but oh well, because I barely knew her and therefore didn't have huge investment. Am I interested in game night and being friends? Possible"
Does that make sense?
