By the way, latest update on my brother's wedding: apparently my dad was having a calm and rational conversation until my mom flipped out and everything became a yelling match again. Now the deal is that, actually, no, they can't do April/May because that's when a relative is getting married, so if they don't want a spring/summer wedding, they can have the wedding next October, since, after all, "There's an October every year." They now have no hope that my brother will dump FSIL, so they want some time to "heal" and get to know her, not having bothered to get to know her in the last two years. And my mom is coming here for a month next week, and they can't be bothered to meet her before then, or after then, or anything, I guess. Also, if my brother goes through with this, it will be a sign to the family that marrying a white woman is acceptable, never mind the fact that my cousin is openly dating a Filipina girl and his parents don't care. Never mind the fact that the rest of the family already supports my brother. Finally, they're mad at my brother for talking to his aunts and uncles about this because it was a big secret only they were allowed to talk about, not, you know, his actual life.
I just get angrier and angrier at them for the way they're treating him.