There are a few of us in Natter and Bitches who talk about being the adult children of mentally ill parents and having the same bahaviors and coping skills as adult children of alcoholics. I hate thinking that could be Em in 20 years. And it depresses the shit out of me.
Oh, Aims, no. Just... no. Don't think that about yourself. You're not even close to that. Echoing what everyone else has said, it's the love and being able to talk about it and being honest that matters.
And ION, I GOT THAT GIG for the MS editing forthe Emmy-winning writer-producer! Biggest gig evah! So psyched!
Big YAY!
Aims, what Zen and everyone else said. I think being able to openly communicate with Em and talk to her about these things is the most important part.
Yay, Strix!
Yeah, when you're little it's hard to separate your stuff from your parents'. Knowing that your stress is not her fault and not her responsibility to fix might be good, Aims. It's sweet that she wants to try, but there's sweet and there's sweeping up coffee grounds from every nook and cranny.
Aims, I Am Not A Parent (IANAP disclaimer), but maybe it would be good for both of you to give her some ideas of how she can help in ways that actually help? She really wants to make you feel better; maybe telling her she can, IDK, read a story with you or something will give her a way to feel like she's helping you?
Fuck yeah, Strix!
Aims, everyone else has had great advice, so I'll just add my hugs and hairpats and love.
Sweet fancy Moses, I'm tired. I know I can't complain too much because Rose is actually a pretty good sleeper, but bedtimes can be so full of sturm und drang, and I've been up since she woke up at 5:30am. Tried putting her to bed just now, and M had to come in and relieve me after half an hour when she was still crying. He's been in there with her for maybe 20 minutes now, and she's still crying. No, wait! She stopped! Though it could start up again at any minute. Oh, little girl, please just go to sleep!
Child, Go The Fuck To Sleep.
How old is she now, Kate?
Three months, Amy. We're trying to get her on a more regular nap/sleep schedule lately -- supposedly between two and four months is the best time to do that -- but it's hard!
Aw, it is hard. I remember it well. It definitely gets easier, though.
Three months, Amy. We're trying to get her on a more regular nap/sleep schedule lately -- supposedly between two and four months is the best time to do that -- but it's hard!
Yeah. Child sleep isn't some wonderful linear path to easiness. There are many lapses and difficulties.
