le n., it was my damn house, and she was renting it.

Hey, that's what happened to my house! I didn't have to see it though, being very far away. Spent thousands of dollars to get it presentable again though.

Is "non-litterbox cleaning" the cleaning of other parts of the house that aren't the litterbox?

Exactly. At least litterboxes are designed for excretion, and the minimising is built in. But I'm not Hec. I read your guyses gross stories of your gross beasts. I know what they do, and I have no doubt they would have extra poop stored up to mix with extra pee as soon as I was on the clock.

Seriously, our outdoor dogs knew to crap in the flowerbeds Everything was so simple and perfect. The worst thing that happened was that I had to pretend to not be watching dog sex every now and again (I have no idea why my mother kept asking me to chaperone the dog. I was clearly not interested in *no* puppies)¹.

Oh, thank god. I had to google permission to spell it chaperone. Chaperone it is ::scrolls upwards::

I've never had the misfortune to even be in a hoarder's house, much less own one and have to clean it (seriously why aren't we allowed to give up more? Right--she gave up)² but my best friend and I used to visit a declining old woman (watch me learn she was really 60) during our lunch hour, and there was always a risk of...things. Things that smelt so bad we couldn't in good conscience leave them for another, more past-the-age-of-majority caregiver, or even the Meals on Wheels person and there was a lot of stifled squealing and gagging as we poured stuff down the toilet (if the toilet wasn't the problem) and sometimes cutting the visit short if we were too shaken to make conversation (it's not like we had to make different conversation from the visit before, but still. She did deserve us putting some effort and sincerity into it.

I hate saying it, just in case, but I do remind myself when I'm being helped by a nurse/pedicurist/massage therapist/anybody who works close that it's really unlikely that I'm gonna be the worst they've ever seen, or even the worst this week.

Then again--someone is! Cheering thought, isn't it?

My mother does apologise whenever she plays JEW or any variant, but if it's in the dictionary I don't mind if my opponent plays it. We're just tools of the lexicon in these games. Win however the rules reply.

¹: Hey Steph--it happened again. 1 in 3 might have been cautious.
²: ::shrug::

(seriously why aren't we allowed to give up more? Right--she gave up)

A valid question, in my opinion. Her life no doubt improved after she gave up; she went home to her grandma who thought she was an angel and she probably got time and breathing space to get her shit back together. Or not, I don't know, but it had to be better. I still have a few of her old possessions, just in case I ever hear from her again.

I think we can give up. But by giving up, she seriously inconvenienced Zenkitty. Couldn't she have given up 6 months prior and left a serviceable house? Walk away but don't leave feces a foot deep.

If it had just been boxes of papers, I think Zenkitty would have been pissed, but she probably wouldn't have sat on the porch step crying.

Old hairballs are of the ick, but in the "can happen to anyone (who has a cat. I presume tropical fish owners don't have that issue)" category. My mom's house got so bad that she giggled about how clever the dog was to cover her own crap in the layers of animal hair that lined the floors so that it was much easier to clean up when they found it. If they found it.

Yeah, in general, I think it's really difficult to "give up" without it being a huge burden for someone else. So in general, I'm of the "take care of your own crap" mindset. I say this as someone who has had to clean up after more than person who "gave up" and another person (my late grandfather) who didn't have a choice because dementia had rendered him incapable.

That's what keeps me from saying "Fuck it," because there's no one around me to carry the load, so I'd have to deal with it anyway.

I think we can give up. But by giving up, she seriously inconvenienced Zenkitty. Couldn't she have given up 6 months prior and left a serviceable house? Walk away but don't leave feces a foot deep. If it had just been boxes of papers, I think Zenkitty would have been pissed, but she probably wouldn't have sat on the porch step crying.

I did wish she'd left before she made such a huge mess, but maybe she only got the strength to move when she knew I was coming back. I strongly suspect she just couldn't face me. It happens when it happens. I know the timing of my choices/breakdowns has inconvenienced other folks, so, y'know... karma.

yeah, I know what you mean. there's inconvenience - like being kinda messy. But then there's INCONVENIENCE where you want to burn down the house. I just think since you were friends that she could have found some kind of way, even breaking the lease early so you didn't have to deal with ALL of that.

You have an appropriately adult perspective on all of this.

My shit still would be lost.

Oh! I was reading through old COMMs just yesterday and came across this one!

I _knew_ I'd told it here, but could not for the life of me tell you where to find it.

Speaking of finding things, billytea, I posted a question over in Unamerican that is relevant to my own interests in your country. However, additional research would suggest that I am hosed on this issue.

Has anyone purchased music, legally, from another country?

I'd like to buy some stuff by Joe Moore, who is currently appearing on Australia's Got Talent...in fact, given the time difference, he may already have won this evening. If he does not win...he will have been robbed!

Anyway, I can get clips from the shows easily on youtube, but cannot buy the music through US itunes. Which seems ironic, but anyway.