Yeah, from what I understand, there is less free time after you graduate med school and become an intern.

Also, I'm betting there are things planned for the wedding that would be stressful to reschedule. Finding a venue, cake, all that sort of stuff. Sure, they could cancel now and plan for a later date, but that's stress they don't need. My unsolicited advice: P-C's brother shouldn't go along with their demands.

So between my husband's grandmother's death and his potential layoff this week, we've both been kind of stressed. Apparently that manifested in heart palpitations for me today. They seem to have calmed down, and I've resolved to cut back on caffeine, and my need to take Sudafed last week probably didn't help, but still. What the hell, body? Cut me a break.

The other thing - and this kind of clinches my thoughts on the subject - is that there's no practical reason to postpone the wedding.

PC's parents want some sort of symbolic gesture indicating that their son is focused on finishing medical school. But does anybody really believe that getting married now is going to stop him from finishing medical school? Of course it won't. He's been living with her for a couple years now. It's better to do it now for PC's brother and his intended.

It's a stupid, onerous symbolic gesture that only matters to PC's parents and ultimately it only matters to them because its an impediment, an obstacle.

He should simply say, "I'm going to get married. And I'm going to finish medical school on time. These are not exclusive. This is my life. This is my wife. If you want to see the grandchildren then you will have to change. You've been nothing but hostile to this relationship. There's no reason for me to accommodate your wish when it is only a false, symbolic gesture, another obstacle. If you loved me, you would support me and my wishes and my choices."

Heart-ma! Take a breath, Dana. Exhale....ahhhhhhhh.

Ugh Dana, sending serenity~ma.

And I agree that being in med school pretty much changes the calculus. I know someone who had her first kid while in med school and, looking at it after-the-fact, it seemed like perfect timing. Because residency is what sucks serious donkey balls.

If you loved me, you would support me and my wishes and my choices.

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Dude. It's not a sincere sentiment. It's a flanking maneuver.

Flanking maneuvers are a good idea. I use them on my family all the time.

Ryan had a haircut this weekend. Biggest meltdown I've ever seen from him. We primed him by watching a DVD of kids getting a haircut. We talked about it beforehand. He got to watch Daddy get his hair cut first. He got to sit on Mummy's lap. None of it helped once the scissors started in.

Of course, at childcare he's still speaking of his haircut as if he successfully quested for the hidden treasures of Salladhor Saan or something. Also of his new shoes, which have sparkly lights in the heel when he walks. He's styling.

Dude, he spent half his life growing that stuff! I feel his pain. To this day I hate getting haircuts. But. At some point, the bangs in the eyes overpower the hate. The scales of a Libra. Always balancing out in the end.

ION - I think my bank has all the documents they need. Hopefully will have a timeline tomorrow of when closing will be! Eeeep!