o-a, see profile addy.

I probably won't get to respond till tomorrow, though.

If you unhide your email address in your profile, fewer people (just logged in b.orgers) would be able to have access to it, as opposed to it being visible to all and sundry in the thread.

OK, ita ! Will do.

Perhaps Gray Cat is really 2 cats, one inside and one out.

I'm back in Pennsylvania now. I really hate that drive, but at least it's a bit prettier in the summer.

Now I'm reading a bit more Game of Thrones, and then I'm going to watch my six-year-old cousin in a Lifetime movie. I think she's just at the beginning of the movie, since she's credited as "Young Emma," and Emma is the name of the main character played by Lacey Chabert. There might be flashbacks, though, judging by the plot summary -- something about an imaginary friend from childhood who continues to haunt this woman as an adult.

I like the Evil Twin theory of Gray Cat, Connie! Except not so much Evil and Good as Needy and Aloof twins.

So I just watched my beloved Class of 2012 graduate. Sniff. I'm going to miss them a lot.

That cat walks through walls.

You should call him Kitty Pryde.

Have spent more time on OKC. Favorited four new people, only to realize they are all balding and somewhat bearded, as is StW - not sure if I've developed a type or am having some kind of libido hangover . Am having a conversation with one guy and will likely meet up with him soon. I just wish his first name wasn't the same as StW (though he spells it differently). I've told him already that a) I'm getting over someone else and b) do not do "coy."

I've had an anxiety attack all day, which I suspect is made worse by hip and back pain. Haven't gotten anything done that I needed to. Have stretched hip and back a lot, to no avail. I'm supposed to go to this art gala thing tonight but I don't want to go alone, I'm afraid I'll spend money I don't have For A Good Cause, and I am not sure whether being around the humans would be good for me or bad for me. Hmm, maybe I'll text R.

I am quickly learning that those discussions do absolutely nothing for people who are convinced of the righteousness and justness of their viewpoints. All it does is give them more ammunition with which to turn around and fire right back at you. At the end of the day, they are still selfish and hurtful, and you are one step closer to being mortally wounded.

I didn't want to cut contact with these individuals for various reasons, but my shoulders are not wide enough to carry my own blame, let alone the blame that belongs to others. There are many more sinners than saints, and I cannot deal with people who think they are the latter while labeling me the spawn of the devil. While I'm sad at the loss of people and things that are important to me, my mental health is better when I surround myself with people who genuinely give a damn about me, warts and all.

Life is too short, bonny. Let the toxicity go and concentrate on the good that exists right now and that is to come. There's nothing we can change about the past, but it's experience that can make our future better.

You are wise, Maria. Thank you for your thoughts. I agree completely.

At this point, I have had to ask myself how much the vexing is doing for me. I realize that this woman's recent behavior has given me an excuse to dredge up every hurt that I thought I had forgiven her for. It's a longer list than I am proud to count. There WAS some really good stuff, but the ledger is heavier on the side of friendship of need vs. friendship of love.

So, while I thought I was over the old stuff, I know now that I was compromising my own principles and, for whatever reason, I'm not being allowed to continue doing so.

ION, it's a good thing Cagney is sudamncute. I'm having to be conscious of the horror movie trope..."It's quiet in here...too quiet."

When I rise from the computer and track him down in another room, he is invariably gently gnawing on something of mine. Science tells me that it is a reaction to my expression, but is sure looks like guilt to me. To which, I must reply...if you don't want me to storm at you, DON'T CHEW ALL THE THINGS. It's pretty simple, really.

We are becoming better buddies, definitely. We just have two problems...one small and one big...to overcome. So, we've got that going for us.

Strix, I have been too amused by my own OKC profile. I know it is excruciatingly long...for a specific reason...but it it would be fun for you to tweak it, it would be fun for me to see what you'd suggest.

That cat walks through walls.

You should call him Kitty Pryde.

Suh-NERK.