She did not feel sorry for me, she did not patronize or judge. She simply saw the hole in my heart and tried to fill as much of it as she could with loving kindness.
THAT is why I didn't think of anyone, or anything else when I saw the opportunity to repay even a fraction of their kindness.
I am so very glad that this woman exists. Kindness and goodness like this hold the darkness at bay. I am glad that she is in your life, bonny. And I wish I could put the non-friend in a full-brain cast to let her stew in her own juices until she either actually becomes healthy or completely liquifies and is unable to harm anyone else with her poisonous attitude.
Strix, sending vibes for a strong wall of protection around you and your family.
smonster, still sending healing vibes.
This has been your daily cat update.
I thank you for it!
(Windsparrow, edact-ray the ame-nay)
For anyone who might appreciate it - nail polish in a skull-shaped bottle. Some colors by this maker come in glow-in-the-dark.
I'm doing laundry at Nora and Tom's (because they're awesome!) house and called both my credit cards to see if they'd lower my APR. Credit union doesn't offer a lower limit on this card; Chase claims they aren't lowering *anyone's* rates right now and my account will be re-evaluated in August. Called Chase back to ask for a higher limit, denied.
Argh. But my score is slowly improving, so I'll just keep plugging along.
Don't be fooled by the "re-evaluating" line. They "re-evaluated" mine back in January and left it exactly as sky-high as it already was (seriously - highest rate I've got, including store and gas cards!) I used my tax refund to pay them off. Bastards!
(That is to say, it might be worth the trouble to do a balance transfer if someone makes you a reasonable offer - good luck!)
Yeah, Epic, I know. The credit card lady at my credit union gave me some good advice. Just going to keep whittling down the debt, starting with Chase.
Glad to hear I'm following your CU lady's good advice myself, then. Good luck cutting them off quickly!
Credit cards are always fun, in that regard. I remember watching my sister knock down serious debt over a couple years. And the agencies that "help" you, most often are scams. IIRC, she did a lot of intro rate transfers, and then doing minimums on the low interest, and as much as she could afford on the higher interest ones. I want to say she had about a dozen cards at one time, between the ones she was swapping to, and from. It made the head spin.
I want to say she had about a dozen cards at one time, between the ones she was swapping to, and from. It made the head spin.
This is why I'm trying very hard not to do any more balance transfers, no matter how tempting it would be to cut some of these CC companies from another cent of interest - I Don't Want Any More Cards (Seriously, Too Many). So now I'm just chipping away at the highest rates and trying to be (somewhat) responsible with spending (trying being the operative word - did a little retail therapy for a wicked emotional trough last week...but y'know what, my new Avengers toys are still making me smile, so I'm not even too mad at me...)
edit to clarify: not trying to contradict myself, you sounded like you only had a couple of cc's, smonster, otherwise I wouldn't have said balance transfer, not if you're over-plastic-y like I am...
