P-C,

I am sure this is really awful for you, being in the middle of all the bullshit. I'm sorry. Do the best you can, support your brother (I think he will need you). I'm not sure what to say about your relationship with your parents. I mean, how can it not be strained?

I am intrigued about her reaction if you do call emergency personnel with information that she may harm herself.

As others have said, the only thing your brother can do is tell her he would love to have her at the wedding and then disengage from further manipulations. What she does is on her head.

Ginger is wise. I hope your brother and bride-to-be have a lovely wedding and a wonderful life.

I suspect it will be a happier wedding without her.

I suspect if he disengages and does not give her an emotional response she will attend the wedding. This may prove a mixed blessing.

Buffistas are smart. This will be something your parents regret, I believe, when they are older, and hopefully wiser. But all kinds of congrats and good wishes to your bro and future SIL-of-Cow!

Sounds like he will get non-blood family that are great parents.

ION, why can't I brain today? Whyyyyy?

IO(O)N, Awww, gothy clothing designers are offering to custom-make and send something to me for review! I think I want either the Ringmaster jacket or the Spelterini dress. Anyone have opinions?

I like the jacket.

seconded.

The memories of how she righteously didn't attend her son's wedding are not going to keep her warm in her old age.

That's what I'd say to her, right there. No matter how justified she feels she is, she's going to miss one of the happiest moments of her son's life.

And it'll probably be happier if she does, unfortunately.

I am intrigued about her reaction if you do call emergency personnel with information that she may harm herself.

Well, this all went down about a month ago, and FSIL doesn't want to make things worse than they already are.

I'm not sure what to say about your relationship with your parents. I mean, how can it not be strained?

And they haven't said a thing to me about it, either. I've been waiting for them to mention the actual official impending marriage, but nothing.

I hope your brother and bride-to-be have a lovely wedding and a wonderful life.

Me too. I'm really glad my sister has been so supportive of them. She's sort of caught in the middle, but she's really come through for them, and they're very appreciative.

Our grandparents still don't know that FSIL exists. I'm not sure who all in the family even knows.

FSIL is a good egg.

There is always elopement.