The memories of how she righteously didn't attend her son's wedding are not going to keep her warm in her old age.

That's what I'd say to her, right there. No matter how justified she feels she is, she's going to miss one of the happiest moments of her son's life.

And it'll probably be happier if she does, unfortunately.

I am intrigued about her reaction if you do call emergency personnel with information that she may harm herself.

Well, this all went down about a month ago, and FSIL doesn't want to make things worse than they already are.

I'm not sure what to say about your relationship with your parents. I mean, how can it not be strained?

And they haven't said a thing to me about it, either. I've been waiting for them to mention the actual official impending marriage, but nothing.

I hope your brother and bride-to-be have a lovely wedding and a wonderful life.

Me too. I'm really glad my sister has been so supportive of them. She's sort of caught in the middle, but she's really come through for them, and they're very appreciative.

Our grandparents still don't know that FSIL exists. I'm not sure who all in the family even knows.

FSIL is a good egg.

There is always elopement.

Our grandparents still don't know that FSIL exists.

I have known several people whose parents' fought a marriage between different races or cultures or who cut off a gay child, but whose grandparents were much more accepting. Possibly this is because parents feel like these things are reflections on them as parents, while grandparents are more likely to just want their grandchildren to be happy.

When's the wedding? We can do a virtual toast in honor of the happy couple.

My dad's mom was definitely more accepting than either of my parents.

I'm pretty much nodding and pointing at what everyone else says. Gah, family.

oops, wrong thread...

And they haven't said a thing to me about it, either. I've been waiting for them to mention the actual official impending marriage, but nothing.

I hope for your sake that this remains the case. It is a blessing that your brother was not an only child. He needs his supportive siblings and future family more than ever.

It is outstanding that his future family-in-law sounds so great.

A story not really comparable to PCs case but worth sharing for amusement value.

A friend of mine (a Goan Catholic woman) was marrying a Jewish man. Her mother said she would "never ever ever" attend such a wedding.

My friend had a special wedding invitation printed just for her mother. It said something along these lines: "You are invited to come celebrate that Greg and I will live together and have many children. P.S. if my mother attends, the celebration will include us getting married first." Her mother attended the wedding.