Sounds like an excellent plan, Teppy!

Yikes, Maria, that's a gut punch indeed. I'm very glad it was corrected quickly, but so sorry you had to deal with that. I've been thinking about you and wondering how you're doing, so it's good to see you checking in.

Steph, a nap sounds like an excellent plan.

Oh Maria, I can't even imagine. Holy crap. I'm so glad it was resolved, but still, that's unbelievable.

Teppy, I'm glad the funeral was as good as it could have been, but do take care of yourself today. Nap sounds good.

sj, I love the energy and excitement of a new house! Please share pics as you work on it, if you're willing.

Maria, that is awful even if it was resolved.

Basic social skills question: (Happening shortly, so please excuse the timing for asking)

A acquaintance of mine is coming from out of town to give a presentation at a local government office during their lunch hour - an inhouse brown bag thing. I'm meeting him for a half hour at the office before the presentation cause we don't get much time to talk, and we have mutual professional interests. I'm definitely planning not to hint to stay, because crashing an inhouse event is bad manners and major negative PR. But what if I'm invited? At that point would it be better manners to stay or to go? If it happens, I'm leaning towards assuming that it is Pacific Northwest manners, and that the polite thing is still to stay no., But I'm worried that if it happens, is sincere, and I say no, that is bad manners. Yes I'm neurotic. Dammit if I lived in NY that would not be a problem; the odds would be I would not be asked, and if I was it would probably be because they wanted me to stay. Here I'm betting I get asked regardless.

I think you could respond with a whole 'Oh, I'm not sure that's appropriate, isn't it an in-house lunch? Wouldn't I be out of place/crashing/etc?" and the response would determine the outcome--a weak "Oh, well, I'm sure it's fine..." might be a no, with a "No, it'll be great, they have others coming, no one will notice!" would be more of a yes...

I think you could respond with a whole 'Oh, I'm not sure that's appropriate, isn't it an in-house lunch? Wouldn't I be out of place/crashing/etc?" and the response would determine the outcome

I concur.

Stupid PNW manners. Sometimes they annoy me. I mean, people are just generally nicer but it also manifests in things like not being able to handle a four-way stop sign correctly. I really do want to go stand at the worst intersection and just hand out "UR DOIN IT WRONG!" fliers. Politely, of course.

Heh. Well, if two PNW transplants agree...you should probably ask a native. I'm not sure I have the appropriate polite-passive-aggressive thing down, quite yet.

it also manifests in things like not being able to handle a four-way stop sign correctly.

No drivers anywhere know how to work four-way stop sign situations, in my experience.

But lisah, in DC at least, the lack of knowledge would engender situations where there were (nearly) accidents because everyone thought THEY were the right person to go.

In the PNW we tend to all sit at the stopsign expecting someone else to go first. No you go. No, you.

That is true, meara