sj, do you have to respond? Can't you just let it lay there like the upsetting thing it is and ignore it?

She ended up calling and TCG spoke to her with enough logic that I think she has backed down for now, except she is positive we paid way too much for the house. We're going to get together at some point and she will bring it all up again. Sigh. It often amazes me that TCG is as wonderful and kind as he is.

Wow, sj. Sorry you're having in-law problems.

I am having alcoholic asshole moron ex-friend problems.

Late last night this alcoholic idiot ex-friend of mine completely misinterpreted my attempts to tell him that I did not want to read his writing anymore, and in a drunken stupor, decided I was suicidal or in a crisis or something, and started attack dialing me (at 2:00 in the morning and continuing until 4:00).

He has started harassing mutual friends, and even people he doesn't know, in his attempts to "intervene".

I have blocked him on Facebook and Gmail. I'm trying to figure out how to block his phone calls, but this involving other people is not only embarrassing, but has massive potential to do ACTUAL DAMAGE to my life.

WTF am I supposed to do if he starts calling people who are potential employers and convincing them that I'm in mental distress, and destroys what little income I have right now.

I cannot deal with this. I *really* do not need this kind of drama in my life.

Sean, WTF is right. Is it possible to deal with the ex friend when they are sober and perhaps more logical? If they ever are sober that is? Otherwise, I have no idea what to suggest, but you have all my sympathy.

That's the kind of help that's not.

Contacthim. Tell him you are not depressed, you are just cutting him out of you life and that if he contacts anyone else implying you are suicidal you will sue him for slander. YOu know better than I if he is the type where that would work. But I would at least consider it.

I did that. It has not worked.

Everything I have done to de-escalate the problem has resulted in a new escalation.

My last email, I did straight up tell him to stop harassing me or I would be calling the police and then calling a lawyer.

Now I think the only thing left I can do is continue to bring down the iron curtain and shut him out completely. Nipping any further problems in the bud where I can, and just dealing with the rest as best I can.

I am *really* tired of alcoholics causing problems in my life.

I am *really* tired of alcoholics causing problems in my life.

Very understandable. I can't wait to get away from the late night drunken rages of my upstairs neighbors. If he does start harassing employers with his paranoid delusions, would a restraining order be possible.

I don't know, but we're going to find out if this keeps up.

Isn't the process of getting a new house rated pretty high on the life stresses list? I hate when people act like you need to treate them like a "loved one" and they aren't remotely returning the favour, even though you're the one in more need right now.

You and TCG have perfectly valid things to be stressing about right now. A mother should purposefully recuse herself from that list.

God, I'm naive.