Although I have usually seen slut applied to women, I don't think I've encountered (or not notably) "male slut" or similar modifiers. It's just not used to refer to men as much in my experience.
I actually think "slut" implies a lack of choosiness more than a lot of sex partners.
That's pretty much where I am with it, but having read a recent article, some people were just referring to quantity.
And, yeah, I might be a slut for sleeping with the right guy if I sleep with him after only knowing him for ten minutes, and perfectly cromulent if I wait until the third date or whatever.
When I think about reclaiming, I prefer the adjective, not the noun -- sleeping with a guy after knowing him for ten minutes might be slutty, but it doesn't make you A Slut. I guess. Especially if it's a numbers game -- maybe you only have sex every five years, but each time it's with someone you just met.
Oh, for the love of god, no.
maybe you only have sex every five years, but each time it's with someone you just met.
No, I think I'm still a slut.
Oh, god, my head hurts and I just want to expire.
That one-book store is super cute, and obviously successful!
Also, I love sluts. Also slots, which is what I typed the first time....
I think I would only use the term slut for someone who tries to sleep with attached people or just throws themselves at people constantly.
Huh. I kind of forgot that slut was a pejorative. It's just sort of free-lovey, yay!sex in my head.
Such a bubble I live in.
Heh. I'm reminded of the last drag conference--someone had the idea to buy those shiny stars, and declared green was if you were open to anything, yellow (gold) if you were limited/could only make out, and red if you were in a relationship. My friend Dana and I were like "but what about the silver stars?" (the only color left after that, but not assigned a status). We decided the silver stars were the slutty stars, and many people glommed on to that idea.
Yipes, too many tornadoes! I found the footage Hayden linked to too scary to watch all the way through. So upsetting.
It's hard for someone inclined to use the word "slut" to really consider whether those numbers consist of guys that were well-chosen. The denotation is lots of guys. The connotation is indiscriminate.
I'm loving on bon bon's brain right now.
WRT the slut conversation, ita, I'm wondering why you want to apply the term slut to yourself. What gives?
I'm wondering why you want to apply the term slut to yourself. What gives?
I don't have an inherently negative association with the term. If you apply it to people who sleep with other people they barely know/just met, well, that's me.
