Just ask. Say "hey, I noticed that you sign your emails mikey ray and I've been calling you micheal. Do you prefer Mikey Ray? Micheal? Princess?"

And leave it at that. He might not care, but if he does, it's huge.

Refusal to accept my choice of name bothers me.

Man, at a party earlier this summer, an acquaintance greeted me with "Stephieeeeeee!!!!" and I took her head off. I didn't really mean to, but god damn it, how hard is it to just say the one fucking syllable? It's actually MORE DIFFICULT to append extra syllables. "Steph" = 1 syllable. Simple. "Stephanie" = more work. "Stephie" = also more work, and certain death.

Because I have never, ever, EVER introduced myself that way, nor does anyone with a lick of sense refer to me that way. So being greeted with "Stephieeeeee" made me go from pleasant to evisceration in 0.4 seconds.

I do feel bad about it. A rational person could just say, "You know, I really prefer Steph," and leave it at that.

(But I haaaaaaaaaates it.)

I am Steph wrt to diminutive of my name. like omg why?!?

My brother's name is Kip, and it always bugged him to no end that our next door neighbor when we were kids constantly called him "Kippy." But, she was an older woman and we were always taught to never talk back to the elderly so he never corrected her.

Woo hoo, amyth!

I'm having a name thing at work -- there's someone I've never met, that everyone here refers to by his honorific, but he keeps signing his emails to me with a nickname. I am scared to write back to the nickname!

But if it were Michael Raymond-James, I'd probably just ask.

Really, my dad is 72 and shouldn't have to barricade himself in his bedroom because he's afraid of his son

OMG Cash, no!

Oh Cash, that's not good at all. Can the hospital recommend a secure board and care? My SiL is in one where they can't leave unless escorted (she would be wandering the streets otherwise). This at least ensures that there's medical staff and security staff present. My in-laws were in no way able to care for her, and this is the best solution all the way around for us.

I think so. But I'm very particular about what I'm called. Refusal to accept my choice of name bothers me.

Yeah. Answering to Allie really bugs the shit out of me. I'm having a "this is the name i use on credits and this is what i am inviting you to use as a familiar" thing.

I usually think it's a thing where when people sign something with a nick it's an invitation to reply with it. I don't know what makes me feel odd doing it in some places. I can't call Steven Chu "Steve." He has a nobel. But that's how he signs his emails. You're going to have to be Dr. Chu.

Cash. Oh I'm so sorry this is happening.

Jesus, Cash.

Luckily people don't fuck with my name to my face except two. One gets a pass because she's just...she's her. The other is a disrespectful bitch.

I told a developer here that I wanted to add an exclamation point to my name, and he took it in the spirit it was offered. I am glad. Then he suggested I change my name to a SQL statement. DROP TABLE USERS. Booyah. It's nice to be understood.