Eh, I know it's cool to hate on us, I just wish it weren't in the midst of all this.

So I had a quick chat with my Dad about the whole question of them moving in with me. And it appears that he wasn't the one who wanted to move: it was my mother, who is hung up on the idea that she should live with her daughter as she ages, the same way her mother lived with her.

And much as I feel for her, she's got Alzheimer's, and while she may think she'd be happier living with me, she wouldn't. Moving would be unbelievably stressful, they would be farther away from the social services now available to them in the retirement community, and she would (because she is demented and has mental health issues) still be unhappy and make my dad miserable.

Dad likes the retirement community, and would like to have more opportunity to take advantage of it. So I'm going to push to get more personal help into their place so he can go out and meet people and just get away from her toxic attitude. It's worth it to keep him healthier and sane: there's not much we can do for Mom's state of mind, other than keep her on a steady schedule and make sure she gets her meds regularly.

Anyway. Just wanted to share because I really appreciated all the support and advice y'all were providing. It helped me check that it wasn't just me being selfish in reacting the way I did.

Turns out that the position had asked for a master's degree, and my resume was not sent forward because I had a JD. @@

That would piss me off something fierce.

Dad likes the retirement community, and would like to have more opportunity to take advantage of it. So I'm going to push to get more personal help into their place so he can go out and meet people and just get away from her toxic attitude.

This is a great idea, Suela. As her primary caregiver, he needs support as much as she does.

That's good news, Suela.

Not AWESOME news, but certainly better than the other. He deffinately needs time away, good luck getting it for him.

Dad likes the retirement community, and would like to have more opportunity to take advantage of it. So I'm going to push to get more personal help into their place so he can go out and meet people and just get away from her toxic attitude.

Definitely sounds like a plan. And if she's going to (because of her illness) be difficult to deal with anyway, might as well do what will help HIM and keep him (and you!) going strong.

Fuck. They canceled the town hall, which really doesn't tell us anything anyway, but canceling it isn't assuaging any fears here.

I fear liquidation. Not only do I not need to lose this job, I really need to not lose any job, and all over the internet people are cheering our demise.

Awesome.

As her primary caregiver, he needs support as much as she does.

This.

And if she's going to (because of her illness) be difficult to deal with anyway, might as well do what will help HIM and keep him (and you!) going strong.

And this. Your decision sounds like the best thing for all of you. You were certainly not just being selfish. As they age, you would not have the facilities and resources yourself, in your house, to care for them adequately. It's realistic to acknowledge that.

I'm so sorry, DJ. Worry about interior goings-on is hard enough. But it's much worse compounded with negative pressure from without. Here's hoping for the best outcome possible.

That's horribly stressful, DJ.

Me, I'm watching the news about Congressional deadlock and trying to find out if my office will be closed next week. Nobody seems to know...