Where I'm getting hung up is the lack of sexual attraction even after getting to know the person

I'm not sure where you're getting that from.

I think from me, since I said I wasn't sure if I'd call it sexual attraction to Tim. But my hesitation is just because I'm not sure what I feel matches up with what the vast majority knows as "sexual attraction" and takes as a given.

But (hello to the oversharing) -- yeah, I want to have sex with him, however you put the emphasis in that sentence. I want to have sex WITH him. I WANT to have sex with him. I want to have sex with HIM.

Which I guess is sexual attraction. Or Timsexual attraction.

Other things I have learned from Twitter: there is someone with the user ID spiderinurhouse, and they gleefully write taunting replies to tweets about, oh, giant spiders in people's houses. Some people have some strange hobbies, I tell you what.

Is this the person who, um, gifted the world with The Pop-Up Book of Phobias?

I have no idea, but it should be. And yes, that is a pop-up book I have NEVER paged through.

My sister just got comped mad shit on her way to South Africa because she bumped up against visa troubles. She got some really nice people at the flight desk there. I can't believe they're making her pay for a Swiss visa to just pass through the country.

No plan b - means starving artist. I have a college age friend -- she loves music. she is going to school for music and art therpy . Yes, she love to make a living playing guitar and singing. however, if that isn't the way it goes - helping people with music and art - not a bad second choice - and still living with ideals. That is what I call following your bliss . Finding ways to live , take care of yourself , and live up to your ideals of what a good person is.

There are people I know who would laugh at that label being applied to me. But I am a damn grown-up, and the whole notion of privileged hipsters telling people that being responsible means you aren't giving your all to your ART makes me want to take a mallet to them.

Because that is what it means to BECOME AN ARTIST. Wait. I meant to say, to join a cult. Or possibly to join the homeless (into the one mega-homeless, HOMELESSTRON).

Some people have some strange hobbies, I tell you what.

That's actually kind of awesome. But I don't know where you find the time.

But my hesitation is just because I'm not sure what I feel matches up with what the vast majority knows as "sexual attraction" and takes as a given.

I would say based on how many self-described sexuals look at some of the lists made by members of the Ace community and blink and say, "but... that describes me, and I know I'm sexual" that the definitions of sexual attraction as being used is fuzzy at best.

Jilli,

I went to follow that person on twitter and I can't find the userid. do you have that right?

yes, I'm sick and twisted and need my twitter followers list to reflect that.