Scrappy, I agree it's his house. However, when he was visiting my house he didn't listen to me about how I preferred things. So, for instance, he would leave the toilet seat up. And he would go to the bathroom leaving the door open.

He also didn't speak to me respectfully about it, he yelled at me.

Oh, he's got severe Cranky Old Man Syndrome for sure, but I guess I am saying that if you feel like more of a guest there, then it won't feel personal and hurt you, since the same rules don't apply as would to your own place. And what is WITH the older guys leaving the bathroom door open? MY F-i-L does that and I don't get it. His wife, daughters and sons all complain about it, and he doesn't care, since he has the same Cranky Old Man Syndrome.

This is not mere Cranky Old Man Syndrome. My father is a domineering bullying man. I was emotionally abused throughout my childhood and that was far worse than any physical batting around I endured. People who have worked under him lived in fear of his yelling, his belittling, his sarcasm, his condescension. He is unpredictable in his anger and that unpredictability created some coping behaviors in me that have not served me well in my life and that I'm trying hard to overcome.

I don't want to get into a nitty gritty explanation of things. All I can say is that this isn't me being stubborn about some rule I knowingly broke or running around here feeling entitled. It's living in a way where you never know what thing you do will set off a concentrated burst of anger, belittling and yelling. And getting yelled at by him is not experienced by me as an isolated event with only the power of that event. I almost can't go through it without having flashbacks.

(((Spidra))) I wish there was away you could get out of there.

{{{spidra}}} I fear having nothing to offer but ~ma that a perfect housing solution miraculously appears allowing you to get out from under your parent's thumb. The situation just sounds worse and worse.

Yay Erin for awesome job situation! Good news is good.

In totally petty me news, my mother is on my second to last nerve and we still have 4 days before i transition to dad-time. As she says, it's hard being an introvert with an extroverted mom. But it's not just that she's extroverted, it's that she thinks out loud. All the time. With no filters. Anyone who has ever suffered through watching a movie with me....she is 400 times worse. You can't even hear the dialogue most of the time for her constant prattle. Which of course leaves her constantly asking "what did he just say?" and finally me snapping with "if you'd just stop TALKING we all would have heard it!". I tried to laugh it off as a joke but we all know i was entirely serious. Now she's taking a shower and i'm decompressing on the internet. Oh well.

I just took mom to the airport after she was here a week. I'll miss her, and kinda even already do. But, damn, I am so glad to have my house back to just my own. There was a lot of family around and awesome times this week. Just I like my space too. I get it.

Running around nakey yet?

Ha! That's why one of the intros on S2 of The Guild, where Codex is so glad she finally has her place back to herself that she does naked laps around the apartment makes me laugh so much.

I'm sorry to hear that, erin. Intro-extro conflicts can really grate. Esp when you feel like you need to watch movies close captioned...

Went outside to find my bike has a flat AGAIN. This is the third flat in 5 months. That's a record. Thank dog that isn't my only bike. I pulled out the recumbent and blew its tires up (not punctured, but flat from disuse) and cycled to TJ's. More crowded than it was the day before T-day!

Ate out because I didn't want to risk any donnybrooks at home. 3rd time this week. Food budget has been up this week, but most people seem to need to get away from family at least some of the time during the holidays so it's not like I'm exceptional here.

Was a beautiful day today. Very blue sky, if cold (by SoCal standards).

It's crazy chilly here. I am not nakey. But I have a glass of wine and a kitty on my lap and am watching tv off of the dvr without worrying about blipping back and forth annoying someone else.

I will SO be running around nekkid as soon as i get home, disparaging felines be darned[1]. but first i have 2 more days in FL staying as guests w/ a friend of my mom's, then 2 days at mom's townhouse, then 5 days w/ dad.

[1] there is sense to this, as first night home after a fortnight gone the kitties will require a bath, which will require a warm environment, and the best way to make sure the air temp isn't too cold for them is for me to be comfortable starkers.