Gods DAMN but there's a lot of [Buffista]-is-wise on this board. Amyth, my sweet brilliant friend, we have you so very much in our hearts.

And thanks everyone for the sympathy about the surprise indoor weather. The rain is gone for a few days and we're pretty sure we know where the problem is. Time to level up our homeowner skills while the weather holds....

Yeah, everybody upthread is wise. But I still wanted to chime in with sympathy. That's a tough situation.

Yeah, everybody upthread is wise. But I still wanted to chime in with sympathy. That's a tough situation.

scoots next to Liese, nods vigorously.

{{{amyth}}} I'm glad posting here about it helps you.

{{{Calli}}} Flying, yay! I kind of want to just say that whenever I see you posting, but especially today.

Hugs, amy. That sucks a lot (and randomly, I am glad I have a better relationship with my brother in law, but...I don't know that I would think to call or send a card if I heard his parent died. I would probably...facebook my sister?)

I, however? Really really wanted to be alone with my illness.

Yeah, but you weren't dying. I mean, one hopes. Amy's brother, from what she's said, probably has limited time.

Thanks, y'all, so much. I love you all. I can't say it enough.

So, since my last post, I had a wonderful, sane talk with my BFF T., who talked me down from the ledge of my myriad issues, and I ended up feeling a million times better. He reminded me that I shouldn't necessarily take what my brother says (the emotional content of it, anyway) at face value, since he's undergoing treatment for a brain tumor, and is also very stressed. Also, he said pretty much what you said, ita. Give him space, respect his boundaries. And, in his most loving and bullshit-free way, got me to get over myself. He's pretty much the only person who can do that quite that quickly, which is why he will always be who he is to me.

And then, five minutes later, my SiL called, and said that my brother never should have said anything, that that was between her and him, that she was upset, that she and her father were very close, that she doesn't want us to be mad at each other ever, that I am welcome at their house anytime, and she gave me detailed updates on my brother's treatment and how my nephew is doing, how she herself is doing, she let me apologize, she accepted it, it was all extremely normal and wonderful, and all is well. Just like that.

So the lesson here is: much like swimming, wait an hour before posting?

So the lesson here is: much like swimming, wait an hour before posting?

Aw. But you got it out, and it led to a good talk with T, right?

Many hugs, babe. That's just rough all around. I'm glad you got to talk to SiL, though.

That is a most excellent outcome. And we wouldn't know the whole story if you hadn't posted right away, so the lesson appears to be 'post early and often'.

Oh, yay for T and yay for SiL. Glad things got sorted out.

you weren't dying

No, but if I were dying and I wanted to be alone, I wouldn't be less lying when I said so.

I know it's hard, but so is being sick.