The context was "this time people are watching so I shouldn't dick around".

I can remember a shouting match with my mother over going to catechism classes when I was a senior in high school and going to a public school for the first time since kindergarten. It ended with me asking if she was afraid I would marry a Protestant and her answering that, yes, that was her fear. And then I yelled that I was going to marry a Buddist!

Later, I thought it was very funny, but she didn't.

Much ma to all.

It is a generational thing as much as it's an Indian thing. I went through it with my folks over being gay, but it just as easily could have been over dating another race.

Brownie needs to STFU on all things NOLA. I wish frogs would fall out of his mouth when he tries to speak. I'm in the Lower Ninth right now, and reading those words here... It's a good thing I can't choke him with my mind.

Try anyway, smonster. You know, just in case.

Try anyway, smonster.

I tried.

And then I yelled that I was going to marry a Buddist!

Buddhists are nicer than Baptists.

ETA: I'm only saying that because I was one.... Baptist, that is.

Trust me, if minds could kill, Michael Brown would be dead long before now.

My parents got married in a race-charged environment. My father got shit from his friends for marrying lighter than himself. My mother's entire family was expected to marry lighter, but she was the only one that didn't. Marrying outside of their race wasn't ever a social or familial consideration I don't think.

There was a point where I assumed my mother would want me to marry black, but by the time I brought it up, she said she would take any race, as long as I got married. I have no idea how my sister and I have such similar world views that are different from my parents, but to their credit, they pretty much catch up with us every time we push it.

Much ~ma to Pix and Drew, Trudy and aunt, and amyth and bro. Even though I haven't been around much (except to ask for eye~ma for my mom, which FUCKING WORKED and I will explain in a minute), I've been reading Beep Me and sending out whatever good vibes are needed.

Tep, I am so sorry for your and Tim's loss, and I hope the August shitstorm has blown out to sea. I hope I can act with as much strength and grace as you did. It's no surprise why he loves you.

Jess, CONGRATULATIONS! I am so flippin' happy for you all.

P-C, I am so sorry you and your siblings are continuing to go through this. I'll just echo what Cass said, and hope that you all get the best possible outcome.

I just read approximately 6500 posts dating from mid-June through today. I am a compulsive completist. It also reminded me why I need to make sure to keep you all in my life. It makes me happier. Work was harrowing for a while, and I went under a few times, but I should have made more of an effort. The board does a good job of keeping me on a more even keel. Maybe now I wouldn't be so exhausted. Plus, I missed some awesome conversations that I would have loved to be a part of.

OK, now for my mom. It was a macular hole in her left eye, and it left her legally blind. The vitrectomy was going to close the hole, and perhaps give her some sight back. Well, it did a bit more than that. Her doctor calls her his miracle patient. She now has 20/40 vision in the eye. It is possible that she will even be able to drive again. Thank you all for the ~ma, because I am convinced that it helped dramatically.

Now, not to dredge up a closed conversation, but I cannot let this slide:

So what you're saying is that you DO think some (not all, or maybe even many, but SOME) people are being dishonest when recounting their personal lived experiences? And so you need outside corroboration before you can decide if they're being dishonest?

Difficult question. Not all, not most, and the ones who do are probably salesmen of this-and-that.

Shir, I find this kind of sweeping generalization absolutely infuriating. Part of my job involves sales, therefore I am a salesperson. I am sure as hell not dishonest, and neither are the people I work with. Are their dishonest salespeople? Yes. Any more than in the general population? I don't know, but I'll be more than happy to track down statistics if need be. Clarification and qualification are never bad things.

So, how are folks?

It is such a freaking minefield with my dad. We've started a father-daughter thing of me introducing him to series, esp webseries he might like. My dad is a man of many strong opinions and he does more than just tell you them. He rants and gets in a mood to take it out on you. So I try to avoid things ahead of time but sometimes they're so random you can't spot them.

We were watching the Minstrel ep of Terry Jones' Medieval Lives tonight. As it kicked in, I wondered if his disdain for anyone making a living in the arts would somehow get triggered but it wasn't. No, what got triggered was his monolingualism and belief that all languages ought to be wiped out for one world language (conveniently the one that's the only one he knows: English). They were showing an French duo who were playing tambourine and rapping in Occitan as a way to get modern viewers to empathize with the change from poets composing in Latin to composing in various languages of the common people.

At first he scoffed because he thought Occitan was a dead language these guys were reviving just for show. I informed him that Occitan has remained alive all these years and that in fact there was a separatist movement down there. He then went off on that...

What a stupid damned thing to be yelling at someone about. But his prejudices are just such a difficult minefield to negotiate. Like the other night he was going off about tank tops, I kid you not.

ETA: Whoops. Cross-post.