Why raise kids in a multi-cultural society and NOT expect them to be, well, multi-cultural?

I think that completely ignores them wanting to keep their culture. Multicultural doesn't mean homogenized to me, at least.

I totally support P-C, BroCow and their sister finding spouses that they want to commit to, as I've said. But that's not something that is easy for their family.

I am not Indian, clearly, and have no idea what it is like to try to be both American and Indian but I don't think it should involve denying what is important from both.

India is pretty multi-cultural, keeping everyone seperate is part of a long-standing gig. Throw in castes and we're talking some advanced segregation.

It's a the craxy mixing of the different groups that's so American.

Why raise kids in a multi-cultural society and NOT expect them to be, well, multi-cultural?

My mom pointed out that she and all her siblings grew up in America and, lo and behold, they have Indian spouses. I thought, but did not say, "Just because we both grew up in America doesn't mean there's not still a generational gap." She can't understand that we grew up in a different time, and that informs our thinking. So she feels like she failed to pass on her way of thinking, when she never really had a chance against modern society. And that's something that all parents of all races must deal with, I imagine.

She can't understand that we grew up in a different time, and that informs our thinking.

I think you are absolutely right, P-C. In your analysis and that it is way more than an Indian thing.

It's like board culture changes but in a much larger space and over a much longer time. Bitches didn't start as a place to bitch. It is now. People can try to influence how it changes but they can't force it and they might fail.

Hmm, that would be a cool band name. Now playing, An Indian Thing.

She can't understand that we grew up in a different time, and that informs our thinking. So she feels like she failed to pass on her way of thinking, when she never really had a chance against modern society. And that's something that all parents of all races must deal with, I imagine.

Oh, yeah. I had my head-butting moments with my dad into my 30s before he finally conceded defeat on trying to plan my life for me. Not to the extent that you have to deal with, but it was all uphill trying to have an adult relationship with my father for a long time. My brother still bumps into it at 58, because he never got a college degree and my father has just that little bit less respect for him than he shows me and it chaps my brother's ass. Dad's 86, at this point, he ain't changing.

his failure during Katrina was "failing to put things in context."

OMG I DON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT THAT MEANS.

No seriously, your failure was EPIC FAILURE.

The context was "this time people are watching so I shouldn't dick around".

I can remember a shouting match with my mother over going to catechism classes when I was a senior in high school and going to a public school for the first time since kindergarten. It ended with me asking if she was afraid I would marry a Protestant and her answering that, yes, that was her fear. And then I yelled that I was going to marry a Buddist!

Later, I thought it was very funny, but she didn't.

Much ma to all.

It is a generational thing as much as it's an Indian thing. I went through it with my folks over being gay, but it just as easily could have been over dating another race.

Brownie needs to STFU on all things NOLA. I wish frogs would fall out of his mouth when he tries to speak. I'm in the Lower Ninth right now, and reading those words here... It's a good thing I can't choke him with my mind.

Try anyway, smonster. You know, just in case.