Silly Magnolia! I have been so worried - Mycroft was an utter spook the whole time he was with teh nice foster people and for the first few weeks he was with us - it's really only in the last week that he hasn't been completely invisible to not us. I keep thinking about how easy it would've been for him to spook at something and just vanish before he got to know us.

To sum up: Mags kitteh, people have laps and food and a Frankie. Stay with them!

Yay, for Magnolia being found! I hope she decides to be social again soon.

My poor roommate is sitting on a cat carrier on top of her closet, reading Mockingjay and waiting for Magnolia. She was crying at the edge of the opening but wouldn't jump down, and ran away when N went up there. The things we do for our cats!

Can Roommate pile up some boxes or something to provide a series of jumps down to the floor? Then set out some food and move back, away from the opening. Seems like Magnolia wants to come down; give her a ladder and some motivation and privacy, and she'll come down.

She got her! Magnolia is back in the building. She let N pet her a few times, and N scruffed her. Thank the good lord, that was ridiculous. Thanks for all the ~ma and advice.

Has Askye checked in lately? She's in VT, right?

At what point after apologizing and trying to make ammends for a horrific breach in friendship do you, the offending party, get to say, "Get over it. I'm sorry, I said as much, let's move on." or, conversely, "Fuck off." in response to passive-agressive FB posts about finding out who your true friends are in times of hardship and being surprised as the people you thought you could count on but can't??

Sadly, I think that if you are the offending party and your apology is not accepted then you just shut up. They're not obliged to accept your apology or make you feel better.

They have accepted the apology. They have said all was fine. But still, with the posts.

They have accepted the apology. They have said all was fine.

They lied! And, well, they're being ungracious.

But still, with the posts.

Unfriend them? It doesn't sound like they really consider themselves your friend anymore.

I don't know - it just seems like it'd be bad form to complain about how they're being bitcas at this point. The choice is either: (a) You made a shit sandwich and they're going to make you eat it; or (b) Stop being friends.

If they're family, then you're just kind of fucked.

Or, you could drop a big drama bomb and call them out for being ungracious but if the original grievance was as bad as you seem to think, then it just reflects poorly back on you.