Has Askye checked in lately? She's in VT, right?
Come on out, River. The nice man wants to kidnap you.
Simon ,'Objects In Space'
Spike's Bitches 46: Don't I get a cookie?
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
hippocampus - Aug 28, 2011 6:19:40 pm PDT #28612 of 30000
not your mom's socks.
Aims - Aug 28, 2011 7:20:00 pm PDT #28613 of 30000
Shit's all sorts of different now.
At what point after apologizing and trying to make ammends for a horrific breach in friendship do you, the offending party, get to say, "Get over it. I'm sorry, I said as much, let's move on." or, conversely, "Fuck off." in response to passive-agressive FB posts about finding out who your true friends are in times of hardship and being surprised as the people you thought you could count on but can't??
DavidS - Aug 28, 2011 7:47:27 pm PDT #28614 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
Sadly, I think that if you are the offending party and your apology is not accepted then you just shut up. They're not obliged to accept your apology or make you feel better.
Aims - Aug 28, 2011 7:59:01 pm PDT #28615 of 30000
Shit's all sorts of different now.
They have accepted the apology. They have said all was fine. But still, with the posts.
DavidS - Aug 28, 2011 8:05:45 pm PDT #28616 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
They have accepted the apology. They have said all was fine.
They lied! And, well, they're being ungracious.
But still, with the posts.
Unfriend them? It doesn't sound like they really consider themselves your friend anymore.
I don't know - it just seems like it'd be bad form to complain about how they're being bitcas at this point. The choice is either: (a) You made a shit sandwich and they're going to make you eat it; or (b) Stop being friends.
If they're family, then you're just kind of fucked.
Or, you could drop a big drama bomb and call them out for being ungracious but if the original grievance was as bad as you seem to think, then it just reflects poorly back on you.
Scrappy - Aug 28, 2011 8:11:24 pm PDT #28617 of 30000
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
How long has it been. Aims? If it's a week or even a month, then I'd say give them time to get the whining out of their systems. If it's been longer and they are still at it, then you might need to unfriend them.
Aims - Aug 28, 2011 8:14:47 pm PDT #28618 of 30000
Shit's all sorts of different now.
It's been almost 6 months.
It's the couple that had the baby and gave him up for adoption. Joe and I effed up. We were in a bad place regarding having kids and we didn't support them the way we should have.
Sigh.
Sometimes, I really dislike realtionships with the real peoples.
Cass - Aug 28, 2011 8:28:19 pm PDT #28619 of 30000
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
Sigh.
I think you might have to accept that things were said, even though they were regretted, that they can't get past. And if they can't past them, neither can your friendship. I am very sorry.
Aims - Aug 29, 2011 3:16:00 am PDT #28620 of 30000
Shit's all sorts of different now.
Yeah. I beginning to think that we cooked it. And now it's done.
What really gets to me is that Joe? Seems to be forgiven. When I'm out of town, they call him to go to movies, hang out, etc. Even though it was both of us that didn't do what, as friends, we should have done.
Laura - Aug 29, 2011 3:40:22 am PDT #28621 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.
I'm sorry, Aims.
eta: YaY kitty!