I had never heard the term tramp stamp until HIMYM, and based on that episode I assumed it meant a tattoo that a guy gets talked into getting by a date while drunk. As in the tramp had stamped him with a tattoo.

Tramp stamp was definitely around before HIMYM. I thought it was funny in that episode because so much of their humor is irreverent and tied to popular culture, but it bugs me IRL.

Tramp stamp was definitely around before HIMYM. I thought it was funny in that episode because so much of their humor is irreverent and tied to popular culture, but it bugs me IRL.

I figured it was a term that had been around before, but I was commenting on the fact that I got the wrong idea about what it referred to in the episode.

Yay for Drew going home!

sj, didn't mean to direct my comment solely at you. I think it's hysterical you thought that's what it meant.

My brain is occasionally a strange place.

I think it's bad to only use certain terms around certain people because then it makes the okayness of the terms about the other people, and not about the term. It implies I'm only doing it because so and so might get pissed, and makes me think of people hiding casual racism around me but being more racist elsewhere. Or worse, of thinking I'm down with their use of racist terms! (its happened). So, I don't want to be THAT person, even if I don't think it's quite the same thing. I think its just a wishy washy way to be, and thats not who I want to be. I don't classify it the same as, say, using swear words around some people, or something. I wouldn't use "Jew her down" around some and not others, why am I "sometimes" ok with wifebeater? Haven't parsed in my head.

I getcha. I disagree a little bit, but I am having a hard time getting it out there.

40 1st graders today for 8 HOURS. They ated my brain because they are crazy, crazy brain and ebergy sucking creatures.

I wouldn't use "Jew her down" around some and not others, why am I "sometimes" ok with wifebeater? Haven't parsed in my head.

Have applied beer. May have a thought.

I wonder if it's because it's not a term that is specifically targeted at a racial or ethnic group? When using insults that speak to class or socio-economic status, I think that as a society right now, we're more accepting of those terms than ones that are downright racist.

I think, though, that being able to use some terms with some people and not others, speaks more to a trust issue. Mauva and I had trust in each other: She knew that I wasn't a racist and I knew that she wasn't a racist, and so there were certain liberties we gave and took. Not that I would freely use a racist term in my conversations with her, because those are words that I just don't say (unless forced to in an poetry class. *shudder*). But a term like "gypped" gets tricky to me because of my own, personal connotations and the definition I was raised with. And quite honestly, I had no idea the root of word or even the correct spelling until about 5 years ago when I learned it here. Since then, I try not to use it, but I don't judge anyone who does use it.

I cringe at that name for the shirt and I never use it. I don't joke about domestic violence and I don't see the term being used in casual conversation about clothing to be okay.

I'm also the one who will call people out who hope that rape happens to certain criminals going to prison.

forced to in a poetry class.

seriously? You couldn't opt out of the assignment? I don't know if I'm OK with that.

Eh. I use forced in a loose sense. Shouldda scare quoted it. We were reading selections from a poetry anthology out loud in class, and I got passed the book to read the poem a few lines before the author used the N-word. I made the call to read it because I kind of felt trapped. I blushed SO HARD and just wanted to sink into a hole, but as some people from here pointed out, not my work so I have no right to edit it for my comfort. *shrug* It was a good lesson on the usage of charged words.