I think it's bad to only use certain terms around certain people because then it makes the okayness of the terms about the other people, and not about the term. It implies I'm only doing it because so and so might get pissed, and makes me think of people hiding casual racism around me but being more racist elsewhere. Or worse, of thinking I'm down with their use of racist terms! (its happened). So, I don't want to be THAT person, even if I don't think it's quite the same thing. I think its just a wishy washy way to be, and thats not who I want to be. I don't classify it the same as, say, using swear words around some people, or something. I wouldn't use "Jew her down" around some and not others, why am I "sometimes" ok with wifebeater? Haven't parsed in my head.
Tara ,'First Date'
Spike's Bitches 46: Don't I get a cookie?
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
I have not managed to fully shake use of the insult "retarded" and will occasionally still use it in certain company.
I caught myself before I said, "spaz" yesterday.
Happy Birthday, Nora (meant to type that last time and only thought it, oops.)
I have not managed to fully shake use of the insult "retarded" and will occasionally still use it in certain company.
This is, for me, the problem with the casual use. You don't even realize what you are saying. And what it means. It happens to me sometimes too. Generally followed by a feeling of horror at what I just said.
I'm wearing a ribbed tank right now and it's ... kinda chilly actually. But I wanted to change out of my outside clothes when I got home.
Note on lower back as tattoo location. I know a very pretty 45 year old who got a butterfly tattoo at 20. She says she needs to get it seriously modified (not just retouched which she has done on occasion) because it now looks more like a vulture than a butterfly.
- I* say "retarded" sometimes...it's a pretty entrenched insult.And I have heard the lectures more times than any human alive. So it's not like I don't get it.
In Scots vernacular it is referred to as a semmit,[2] and as a singlet in Australia and New Zealand.
Ah! I'd been wondering if they were just the same thing.
I'm glad you're now tubeless, Drew.
I've always called them tank tops whether they're the "underwear" kind or more substantial.
Steph - are you around? My friend and I are talking tats and scars and I wanted to show her yours.