Fingers crossed that Taz comes home from the vet today! Basically he just needs to demonstrate he can pee on his own.

We discovered that our other cat, Marley, has been peeing on our bedroom rug. I have no idea why- Tom's theory is that he started doing it when Taz was in the litterbox all the time, and came to like it - but it basically sent me over the edge last night. I don't know if he's acting out because of Taz being gone for so long, or if it's Tom's theory, or what.

We removed the rug in question and put a second smaller litterbox nearby. Hopefully he will not find someplace new to pee... (this is extremely atypical behavior for him)

sigh Okay, I didn't take the possibly-dangerous medicine. The headache has receded but hasn't gone; I can still feel it, waiting, ready to pounce. I need to go see my gyno again anyway; I'll ask her about solutions. Thanks, all.

I'm on Geek2Geek, which has shown me a few interesting profiles, but seems like nobody responds. Maybe they're all shy.

psst Teppy's boyfriend is hot.

Zen, I get that same headache just before my period and I am on birth control pills. Drinking lots and lots of water is the one thing that seems to help when meds and caffeine aren't helping.

Please note the only reason I don't get that headache on the pill is that I skip the placebos and never have a period. So no hormone drop. If I took them I'd have it just as usual.

I didn't have headaches, that I recall, when I was having periods, just the OMG crushing depression/psychotic rage/outrageous pain.

My long national nightmare ended when, basically, I found a no BS older female GYN who had also had horrible periods and an early hyst -- she didn't rely on just scientific studies and anecdotal experience; she's lived it, and was the first GYN to just say "Would you like painkiller? I think you need some serous painkillers for 4 days out of the month, and I'm sticking a dildocam up your vag ASAP."

She had me on painkilllers ASAP, found the fibroids from hell, counseled me through an oophrectomy then a hysterectomy and she was the first GYN, male or female, who didn't make me feel like an old-fashioned female with a case of the vapors.

If possible, Zen, I'd find a female GYN who's HAD period-related migraines. I mean, we lose sight of the fact that doctors work for us, and we can interview them.

2 cents, really quick.

And when he crossdresses, I wouldn't call him "feminine," necessarily, which is an odd thing to say.

Does he wear makeup, etc?

He does not, partly because it already takes him about 45 minutes to get dressed (most of that time is deciding what to wear, actually, but it still counts as "getting dressed" when he says "I'm going to go get dressed" and he's still picking out clothes 30 minutes later [which does indeed drive me batshit]). So he figures putting on makeup would add at least another 45 minutes. And mostly, for him, it's all about the clothes (and shoes, oh god, the shoes) anyway.

So I imagine half of that shit under jeans and a button-down, and I'm delighted as all get out.

Heh. Tim wears slinky panties under jeans more often than not, when he's not at work. In the winter, if he knows he'll be wearing a sweater or thick sweatshirt, he'll wear a cami or bra, too.

Tim wears slinky panties under jeans more often than not, when he's not at work. In the winter, if he knows he'll be wearing a sweater or thick sweatshirt, he'll wear a cami or bra, too.

That's what I'm talking about (firmly avoids ogling Steph's man). That I don't consider crossdressing, just wearing women-typical clothes. And if they're made for men, it's a whole different feeling from actually shopping in the women's section (both feelings have their...attractions).

(firmly avoids ogling Steph's man)

Please, ogle away. He's eye candy.

Steph's dude is cute, tru fax man. (I feel OK saying that because she thinks my dude is cute too. It's like we have some underlying agreement on what makes a man attractive.)

So I am having a kitty concern: Last night as we were going to bed we noticed that Folly was having some kind of issue. There was a bit of watery, bloody discharge after she used her catbox. eep! So we put her in the bathroom with food and a box so we could keep an eye on her (otherwise she hides). She seems fine this morning, or at least not in distress, and I can see she peed. But I plan on calling the vet today. We are going out of town and I am worried about her.

kitty~ma, Folly.