Actually, Laga, I'm totally with you.

Every time something new hits the news about Pan Am 103, I get messages like, 'aren't you pissed?' or 'you must be so relieved.' That last one came from a huge number of people after an execution.

Am I relieved? Uh. No. My beloved is still dead and no, I don't think another death makes up for that.

In lunch news, I made a lovely greens and beans mix last night. I'm looking forward to have that over a bed of quinoa. It ought to taste even better today.

It actually doesn't take a lot to fill me up, as a general rule-- and some of them are definitely more filling than others. But still, it's kind of the idea of it.

I also discovered, much to my dismay, that my days of eating tuna salad may be at an end. For some strange reason, the last couple of times I've made it, it's left me with a very rumbly, slightly upset stomach within an hour. I'm going to try switching brands and see if that helps-- if it doesn't, well, I'm done. At least I can still eat fresh tuna, seared and beautifully rare on the inside.

Ooh that sounds delicious, bonny. And healthy and filling, too!

I also love a tuna steak. Or sashimi.

You can get updates by googling her name and clicking 'news'.

If her family is posting updates to Facebook, unless they specifically stated they did not welcome comments, then people are going to comment as they react to the news. That's how Facebook works. Is her brother new to Facebook?

t edit And after reading bonny's post -- maybe I'm misunderstanding. Bonny, did *you* post stuff about the PanAm flight and get responses, or did people read about it elsewhere and then send you messages? Because I feel like the 2 are very different things in terms of creating a space for interaction. It sounded like Laga's friend's brother was posting first, and people were replying. Which is different, to me, than people reading about the news and then sending him messages. Perhaps I mis-read.

I feel like posting on Facebook creates a space for discussion, and one should choose one's topics carefully if one does not wish a discussion to take place.

I agree that the comment that she was pretty is kind of off-topic, but if the other people were just saying they hoped for good news, etc. -- those comments don't sound inappropriate to me. (Also, and this is purely my perspective, *if* I posted news of that sort on Facebook and absolutely no one responded, I would be fucking hurt. I would think that no one gave a shit about my family's tragedy.)

I know it's very personal to you, and seeing it as a topic of discussion must be jarring. But, as an outsider, it sounds to me like most people are just trying to post supportive things.

Yeah I get that they are trying to be supportive and I am probably too close to it. Most people are posting that their thoughts and/or prayers are with the family. Now that I think about it, my sister would be annoyed to see people say "I'm praying for you". Some people are too sensitive. Have you heard about the time she sneezed in Starbucks? A stranger said, "God bless you." M replied, "I'm an atheist." "All right then, go to hell."

Yeah I get that they are trying to be supportive and I am probably too close to it.

It would be very jarring to see things like that show up on my FB feed if I were you. But perhaps the family can use support at a time like this.

And now for something completely different.

Have you heard about the time she sneezed in Starbucks? A stranger said, "God bless you." M replied, "I'm an atheist." "All right then, go to hell."

Heh. She did kind of ask for it.

Laga, when they first came out with Lean Cuisines there was a comedy thing where a man is asked about them. And he says something about how they're pretty good and two or three of them make a good meal.

Barb, if it's tuna salad that's causing problems, you might change what you mix in with the tuna.

And, if someone sneezes, I usually say "gesundheit". (waits for it ....)

"gesundheit" is my brother's response as well. The rest of my family (and I note this occurs among the next generation as well) say "salud" which my dad picked up working in south america in the 80s.

Heh. She did kind of ask for it.

but yeah she was asking for it. M seems unable to separate out the earnest prayers of good will from the proselytizing.