"I have a gub."

Man people sure do post some inappropriate things.

A friend of mine was murdered in 1985 and today the police are announcing a new development in the case that has been cold for decdes. Her brother has been posting updates on Facebook and after each one, one or two people asks for another update. Others are saying they hope for good news. Today someone said (murder victim) sure was pretty.

I want to reply to these people that this is not a happy time for the dead girl's family. You can get updates by googling her name and clicking 'news'. But I'm afraid of causing unnecessary noise on someone else's facebook.

News conference this afternoon. Maybe things will calm down after we find out what the new developments are.

Sorry if I ran the thread off the rails.

Anyone have exciting lunch plans today?

I might have a shawarma.

Lean Cuisine, in all likelihood.

Dieting, she sucks.

Some of those lean cuisines are pretty tasty but I never felt like I was getting enough to eat.

Actually, Laga, I'm totally with you.

Every time something new hits the news about Pan Am 103, I get messages like, 'aren't you pissed?' or 'you must be so relieved.' That last one came from a huge number of people after an execution.

Am I relieved? Uh. No. My beloved is still dead and no, I don't think another death makes up for that.

In lunch news, I made a lovely greens and beans mix last night. I'm looking forward to have that over a bed of quinoa. It ought to taste even better today.

It actually doesn't take a lot to fill me up, as a general rule-- and some of them are definitely more filling than others. But still, it's kind of the idea of it.

I also discovered, much to my dismay, that my days of eating tuna salad may be at an end. For some strange reason, the last couple of times I've made it, it's left me with a very rumbly, slightly upset stomach within an hour. I'm going to try switching brands and see if that helps-- if it doesn't, well, I'm done. At least I can still eat fresh tuna, seared and beautifully rare on the inside.

Ooh that sounds delicious, bonny. And healthy and filling, too!

I also love a tuna steak. Or sashimi.

You can get updates by googling her name and clicking 'news'.

If her family is posting updates to Facebook, unless they specifically stated they did not welcome comments, then people are going to comment as they react to the news. That's how Facebook works. Is her brother new to Facebook?

t edit And after reading bonny's post -- maybe I'm misunderstanding. Bonny, did *you* post stuff about the PanAm flight and get responses, or did people read about it elsewhere and then send you messages? Because I feel like the 2 are very different things in terms of creating a space for interaction. It sounded like Laga's friend's brother was posting first, and people were replying. Which is different, to me, than people reading about the news and then sending him messages. Perhaps I mis-read.

I feel like posting on Facebook creates a space for discussion, and one should choose one's topics carefully if one does not wish a discussion to take place.

I agree that the comment that she was pretty is kind of off-topic, but if the other people were just saying they hoped for good news, etc. -- those comments don't sound inappropriate to me. (Also, and this is purely my perspective, *if* I posted news of that sort on Facebook and absolutely no one responded, I would be fucking hurt. I would think that no one gave a shit about my family's tragedy.)

I know it's very personal to you, and seeing it as a topic of discussion must be jarring. But, as an outsider, it sounds to me like most people are just trying to post supportive things.