Wash: Don't fall asleep now. Sleepiness is weakness of character. Ask anyone. You're acting captain. Know what happens you fall asleep now? Zoe: Jayne slits my throat, and takes over. Wash: That's right. Zoe: And we can't stop it.

'Shindig'


Spike's Bitches 46: Don't I get a cookie?  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


hippocampus - Jul 07, 2011 7:49:34 am PDT #24873 of 30000
not your mom's socks.

PC - your mom was looking to pick a fight, and will settle for any fight. So not your job. She needs a different hobby, maybe, but that's not your job either.

Anything involves the DMV totally counts as multi-onerous tasks IMO!

I have too many ridiculous nightmare stories about this place. And too many questions about why one of their branches needs a super-strength truck-proof barrier gate at the entrance.


Strix - Jul 07, 2011 7:56:35 am PDT #24874 of 30000
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger

HA!


Fred Pete - Jul 07, 2011 8:04:15 am PDT #24875 of 30000
Ann, that's a ferret.

P-C, I know you realize this, but you have to internalize it: In the eyes of your parents, nothing you do will ever be good enough or dutiful enough. You need to know this like you know 2+2=4, or Friday follows Thursday.

Once you get it at that level, the knowledge can be quite liberating.


Scrappy - Jul 07, 2011 8:27:16 am PDT #24876 of 30000
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.

In the eyes of your parents, nothing you do will ever be good enough or dutiful enough

I know I've told this story before, but it bears repeating,. Every time we saw them, my MiL nagged my DH about his hair (too long), his weight and his smoking. One summer, he stopped smoking. lost 50lbs and got his hair cut. I told him, "Your mother won't have anything to say to you." He assured me that she would find something. Sure enough, we walked in the house and the very first thing she said to him was "Oh, no--your hair has gotten so gray!"


Polter-Cow - Jul 07, 2011 8:51:51 am PDT #24877 of 30000
What else besides ramen can you scoop? YOU CAN SCOOP THIS WORLD FROM DARKNESS!

You need to know this like you know 2+2=4, or Friday follows Thursday.

And tomorrow is Saturday, and Sunday comes afterwards? I got that down.

Once you get it at that level, the knowledge can be quite liberating.

I have that knowledge, for sure, but, I don't know, I guess I'm disappointed in my parents for being disappointed in me or something. I WANT MORE FROM THEM.


Steph L. - Jul 07, 2011 8:57:23 am PDT #24878 of 30000
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine

I WANT MORE FROM THEM.

You gotta give that up. Which sucks a LOT to do. Everyone deserves parents that actually parent well, but unfortunately, we don't always get that. *They* show no signs of change at this point, nor no signs of wanting to change. So if you keep wanting better from them, you are going to keep being let down. *You* have to be the one to say (feel free to paraphrase), "God damn it, I deserve fucking BETTER than this, but they aren't going to provide it, so I am going to give that desire up."

And you feel SO MUCH BETTER. Seriously, trust me. I know from giving up expectations of good parenting.


javachik - Jul 07, 2011 9:05:07 am PDT #24879 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.

Dude, I'm so calling P-C out on Rebecca Blacking us.


Steph L. - Jul 07, 2011 9:06:17 am PDT #24880 of 30000
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine

Dude, I'm so calling P-C out on Rebecca Blacking us.

Oh god, I'm so pop-culture-ignorant that I have no idea what that means.


Fred Pete - Jul 07, 2011 9:14:16 am PDT #24881 of 30000
Ann, that's a ferret.

*They* show no signs of change at this point, nor no signs of wanting to change.

...or even seeing that anything should be changed. But you're grown up, even if they don't realize it.


Toddson - Jul 07, 2011 9:24:33 am PDT #24882 of 30000
Friends don't let friends read "Atlas Shrugged"

P-C, you do realize that if you had been willing to let your father use your miles, your mother would have complained that they weren't enough.

Speaking from the been-there-torn-my-hair-out-over-that point, I can tell you that they're not going to be the parents you want them to be.