she knew what my answer was going to be, but she just wanted to see how much I loved my parents.

So she was testing you, much in the way a supermegadick would?

And I will edit or delete if you don't like me implying that about your mother. Despite her flaws, she is, after all, still your mother.

(It is a pretty dick move, though.)

From an old poem (approximation):

Not love, quoth he, but vanity, sets love a task like that.

(It is a pretty dick move, though.)

It is totally a dick move, and I would like to call her on it, but I don't think it would do any good, so I guess I just wait until she calms down and then pretend this never happened. Or, wait! I forgot. Sometime today or tomorrow, my dad is going to call me and ask me to apologize to my mom.

Frankly, P-C, I think your sister owes you an apology. Not a big one, but an apology nevertheless, for butting in. She choose not to call either you or your mother who had the conversation, but to call your father - who, I suspect she knew from past patterns, would stir the pot.

If your sister doesn't know how to keep your confidence, you shouldn't be talking about it on Facebook. Given the way that your mother blames other people for things she does, I'm not surprised that your sister asked. She should have talked to you first, though.

Oh, she did apologize. She's really sorry. She sent me a message before my mom even called because she knew she'd screwed up. It was an honest mistake. I told her not to mention anything I post on Facebook to them in the future and she was like, "No shit, Sherlock."

There was a thing on a blog lately about someone wanting a girl to get rid of old love letters from an ex-fiancé. And I was like really?? Unless you're reading them everyday...bit they're a part of your past! I wouldn't delete old pictures either (but not displaying them bedside either)

A friend of mine's SO went through their stuff and deleted all the pictures of exes. I thought that was completely untenable behaviour, but then again, I also read somewhere that you're supposed to get rid of sexy pictures of exes yourself. Is there an effective rule?

P-C, why don't you call your mother out of the blue and ask her for a kidney?

I also read somewhere that you're supposed to get rid of sexy pictures of exes yourself. Is there an effective rule?

Last year when Tim was looking for pictures of his mom for the funeral, he found a CD with nudie pictures of his ex-wife. I would mightily prefer that he not have them. I don't think that's unreasonable. But I'm not going to throw away the CD myself (if I could find it, of course). I mentioned it at the time, but it was understandably a highly stressful time with a lot going on, so I let it lie. (His response was that he definitely didn't want them, and just needed to get the other pictures off the CD [family, pets, whatnot] and re-burn those to a new CD and then would destroy the old CD.) I need to mention it to him again. Though I honestly forgot about it until now.

When I got serious with Tim (or, perhaps, not until I moved in with him...I disremember) I got rid of the very few sexy pics of exes that I had. t edit Although now I am paranoid enough to want to run Picasa on my laptop to make sure there are no sexy exes lurking.

I do not, however, feel bad about taking a picture at the July 4th parade of a group of bare-chested hotass drummers who were with the bellydance group. Damn fine-looking mens.

P-C, why don't you call your mother out of the blue and ask her for a kidney?

But be sure to have another one already lined up.