Frankly, P-C, I think your sister owes you an apology. Not a big one, but an apology nevertheless, for butting in. She choose not to call either you or your mother who had the conversation, but to call your father - who, I suspect she knew from past patterns, would stir the pot.

If your sister doesn't know how to keep your confidence, you shouldn't be talking about it on Facebook. Given the way that your mother blames other people for things she does, I'm not surprised that your sister asked. She should have talked to you first, though.

Oh, she did apologize. She's really sorry. She sent me a message before my mom even called because she knew she'd screwed up. It was an honest mistake. I told her not to mention anything I post on Facebook to them in the future and she was like, "No shit, Sherlock."

There was a thing on a blog lately about someone wanting a girl to get rid of old love letters from an ex-fiancé. And I was like really?? Unless you're reading them everyday...bit they're a part of your past! I wouldn't delete old pictures either (but not displaying them bedside either)

A friend of mine's SO went through their stuff and deleted all the pictures of exes. I thought that was completely untenable behaviour, but then again, I also read somewhere that you're supposed to get rid of sexy pictures of exes yourself. Is there an effective rule?

P-C, why don't you call your mother out of the blue and ask her for a kidney?

I also read somewhere that you're supposed to get rid of sexy pictures of exes yourself. Is there an effective rule?

Last year when Tim was looking for pictures of his mom for the funeral, he found a CD with nudie pictures of his ex-wife. I would mightily prefer that he not have them. I don't think that's unreasonable. But I'm not going to throw away the CD myself (if I could find it, of course). I mentioned it at the time, but it was understandably a highly stressful time with a lot going on, so I let it lie. (His response was that he definitely didn't want them, and just needed to get the other pictures off the CD [family, pets, whatnot] and re-burn those to a new CD and then would destroy the old CD.) I need to mention it to him again. Though I honestly forgot about it until now.

When I got serious with Tim (or, perhaps, not until I moved in with him...I disremember) I got rid of the very few sexy pics of exes that I had. t edit Although now I am paranoid enough to want to run Picasa on my laptop to make sure there are no sexy exes lurking.

I do not, however, feel bad about taking a picture at the July 4th parade of a group of bare-chested hotass drummers who were with the bellydance group. Damn fine-looking mens.

P-C, why don't you call your mother out of the blue and ask her for a kidney?

But be sure to have another one already lined up.

If you can organize my house, I will pay you. Cash money. Bring it. Hell, bring the dog.

Let's do it!

Um, not the Bartleby part. The only thing he would contribute is a full and complete hoovering of your floors for any molecules of food. He would also, gladly, free you from the clutter in your fridge...but I'm guessing that doesn't really need doing.

Drop me a line and let's see what we can do.

I agree that nude pics should probably be let go when a relationship ends...just for sanity's sake, much less respecting a new relationship.

There is only one incident of such material involving me out in the world and, wouldn't ya know it, in the hands of the weaseliest man I've ever known. He said he got rid of them.

I'll never run for office.

I agree that nude pics should probably be let go when a relationship ends...just for sanity's sake, much less respecting a new relationship.

I didn't realize Tim still had his wedding album, and that kind of upset me, but I know when I posted about it here, and mentioned it to 2 close IRL friends (one of whom is divorced), a lot of divorced folks said that they have their wedding album (or at least some pictures), because they pictures are meaningful for all sorts of reasons that have nothing to do with hanging on to the old relationship.

I guess my most recent experience with Proper Ways To Act Upon Remarriage came from the Freak-Ass Church, where my roommate threw her wedding album from her previous marriage in the trash the week before her FAC wedding. She also gave away or threw away all jewelry, clothes, purses, etc., that her ex had ever given her. And now I remember a lot of the girls in the FAC getting rid of any personal items (clothes/jewelry/etc.) that *any* previous boyfriend/sweetie of any kind had given them.

I remember my roommate being happy to throw out her wedding album, but sad to get rid of the jewelry, because she really loved it because it was pretty, not because her ex gave it to her. But the other girls argued that getting rid of all those things would create "purity," since she couldn't be a virgin on her wedding night.

No, really.