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Spike's Bitches 46: Don't I get a cookie?  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


smonster - Jul 04, 2011 8:50:18 am PDT #24627 of 30000
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.

How fun, bt. Glad you had such a lovely day.

I went back to bed for a couple of hours, and am now up again.

Can I take a poll? St.W said at the end of the night Saturday that he'd call me, and he hasn't. It's only been a day and a half, but I'm chafing and feeling neurotic and yeah, I'd like to see him tonight. He assured me that he had a good time, despite the shenanigans, but like I said, I'm feeling neurotic. If I sent him a text along the lines of "Did you find a good place to watch fireworks tonight?" is that a) a nice subtle opening for him to invite me along, if he wants to or b) passive aggressive and needy? If he's having second thoughts, I'd rather know now, you know?

My reasoning is, if I text him, it obviates any possibility that I'm having second thoughts, and the onus is on him to respond or not, and I think I'll be able to be productive and distract myself. But I wanted another opinion or three... feeling the need for a little hivemind objectivity.


Vortex - Jul 04, 2011 8:53:01 am PDT #24628 of 30000
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman

I think that the text is passive agressive. I might be more aggressive and say "I'm going to X to watch the fireworks, let me know if you want to come (or have a better place)"

But then, I'm single, so what the hell do I know.


Nora Deirdre - Jul 04, 2011 8:54:10 am PDT #24629 of 30000
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)

I think you should text him, it seems like a reasonable thing to say/do. I don't think it's passive aggressive or needy.


Nora Deirdre - Jul 04, 2011 8:55:58 am PDT #24630 of 30000
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)

But then, I'm single, so what the hell do I know.

(ha, I was gonna say, I'm married and don't deal with this stuff anymore, what do I know?)

One of the reasons I don't think it's passive aggressive is that you're new in town, so you actually don't know this stuff.


smonster - Jul 04, 2011 9:03:15 am PDT #24631 of 30000
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.

Yeah, I mean, I don't really know a good place to watch the fireworks. And we had talked about it a bit the other night.

I don't fucking know. I'm actually pacing in my kitchen. Sometimes I really wish that I wasn't so quick to fall for people, but it is what it is and I am who I am.


Atropa - Jul 04, 2011 9:08:34 am PDT #24632 of 30000
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.

I have indeed been to Sucre: see blog entry [link]. Wow, it's been almost exactly a year.

Ooooh.

Actually, the rose and violet chocolates are being sold at Rouse's (on Tchoup, at least)and Whole Foods, which makes temptation very hard to overcome. I will, however, endeavor to try Jilli's favorites in the near future and report back.

Even more oooh! Really, I'm just motivated by the rose and violet chocolates. Those are my holy grails of chocolate flavors.

smonster, I would send a text, but not that text. I'd just say something like "Hey, have a good 4th!"


Nora Deirdre - Jul 04, 2011 9:08:54 am PDT #24633 of 30000
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)

Aw, smonster. You should do what feels natural to you. Be who you are. Because that's what he should think he is awesome!


Scrappy - Jul 04, 2011 9:13:01 am PDT #24634 of 30000
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.

I would not text him. I don't want to sound like a "Rules girl," but I think really early on, giving the other person a bit of room to come toward you is good for two reasons. First, you know they want to hang out with you, which is very relaxing and second, they get some time to realize for themselves that they want to hang out with you.

That being said, I spent a good part of my life being the one who emailed or called the other person right away, so make of that what you will.


Strix - Jul 04, 2011 9:15:26 am PDT #24635 of 30000
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger

I don't see anything wrong with texting him; maybe something like "Happy 4th! I'm looking for a good place to watch fireworks, and a fun person to watch them with! Suggestions? You game?"

Light, friendly, open.


Calli - Jul 04, 2011 9:24:24 am PDT #24636 of 30000
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs

erika, I'm sorry about your friend.

Did you get to the Eno this year, or did you decide to forego the heatstroke?

Oh, I went. It was very nice--I got to see two owls and pet a corn snake, as well as hear some music, get my yearly henna tat, shop for crafts, etc. Then I came home and was basically useless for a day and a half. Totally worth it.

smonster, I hope you get to see fireworks with St. W.