"Fuck you," can be a very heartfelt response. "Heartfelt" does not mean tender or sympathetic or kind.

"Fuck you," can be a very heartfelt response. "Heartfelt" does not mean tender or sympathetic or kind.

Words to live by.

Went to the LDS baptism of my step-grand-daughter today. This is an event that takes place around the kid's 8th birthday, the age at which allegedly they can tell right from wrong and at which sins begin to count. I muttered dire imprecations, as I always do when I have to go to an LDS service, but it's the grand-daughter, so I went.

All the grandparents were there, and this was the first time I'd gotten to meet my stepdaughter's husband--soon-to-be-ex-husband, by the way, for reasons I am not privy to. It was also the first time we'd seen Hubby's ex-wife in about 20 years.

Hubby's first response upon seeing her was "Oh my god," and not in the good way. In strict fairness, I have no idea what medical issues she herself has been dealing with, and Hubby himself isn't the man he was. But I have to be honest when I compared myself very favorably to her. Highly petty, but I'm OK with that. I may have dropped within hearing of her that this month is Hubby's and my 25th wedding anniversary--just in case she'd forgotten.

Unfortunately, mine was not the only less-than-charitable attitude. Daughter's husband's parents--lovely people, who were initially suspicious of Hubby, until they got the other side of the stories they'd been told--told Hubby that they had already hired a lawyer to make sure their son would have all the visitation rights he was entitled to, because Daughter had in the past told her husband, "Oh, you don't really love me, if you really loved me you'd sign this paper saying you'd never challenge me for the kids." Turns out this is the same thing Hubby's ex-wife had done to him, before he knew that there was a divorce in his future. She then proceeded to deny him access on whatever grounds she could think of, then took them out of state without asking permission (and he was too blindsided to make a challenge).

At lunch after the service, Daughter's apparent current boyfriend was there, Husband quietly said he didn't want to sit at the same table as him, so Daughter said, "Fine, I'll sit with him at the other table." Apparently his parents are of the opinion that their son married down.

So a day of drama, history, and religious services I find annoying. Fun! But we went to Ikea afterwards, and we learned what a dangerous place that is.

Connie, you my my complete commiseration about the drama

But IKEA!

re: Ikea

Hubby discovered lots of stuff in the kitchen section that he wants, I had to keep saying, "But I don't have a reason to buy it" in the home organization area, and we did really look at furniture. Next time we'll try the meatballs.

Connie, it made me tired just to read that, much less live it. Gracious.

My sunburned legs have been upgraded to a 4 or 5, and I discovered when I got out of the shower that I have a large sunburn that looks rather like a butterfly on my upper back. The only thing I can figure is that where I put sunscreen and where my sister helped overlapped, and the burn is what I couldn't reach.

Erin, received and backflung!

Oh, ouch, lidocaine lotion?

I always keep some in the fridge.

Barring that, cool cider vinegar or, best, in my oft-burnt opinion, is cold brewed tea. (I always have cold brewed tea in the fridge, too.)

And backflung, smonster and SQUEE,I am getting thisclose to fully operational website, all open!

SO. EXCITED.

Also, kind of terrified.

And I am HITTING THE POOL this week. It is summer, dammit, and I will carve out three hours to listen to music and read back copies of Bust, and swim. My girlfriend's out for summer, too, and she is a big ol' water-slut; I know she'll come.

Good heavens, Connie-- talk about DRAHMA.

smonster, be careful! Lidocaine, yes. Good stuff.

I am back from X-Men: First Class and having deeply inappropriate thoughts now of Michael Fassbender.

Ooh, was it good? D and I are supposed to go to the movies, and since he won the bet on how late his ex-would be on the phone call (I guessed 25, he said 45. It was 52) he gets to pick the movie.

I would have picked Thor, but I am hearing fun things about XM:1C.

And I think Fassbender was in the UK series Hex, the first season of which I kinda loved, and the 2nd season being a disaster, but I watched anyway. He was hot, and evil.

It's wonderful! It's a bit of a hodgepodge, in terms of the characters used, but as a reboot and origin story, it works beautifully. The best thing (not really spoilery, but I'll whitefont anyhow) is how it takes our knowledge and assumptions of characters with which we're so familiar and turns it a bit on its ear. Especially the mutants that we presume to be good-- it makes them... human.