It's simple. I slap 'em around a bit, torture 'em, make their lives hell...Sure, the nice guys'll run away,but every now and then you'll find a prince like Spike who gets off on it.

Buffy ,'Get It Done'


Spike's Bitches 46: Don't I get a cookie?  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


Calli - May 12, 2011 2:07:23 pm PDT #21267 of 30000
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs

Weather made me cancel another flying lesson today (yes, first world problems). And I needed to stay a little late at work to take care of some things, so it's just as well that I didn't have to run out the door to drive to the airport. Now I have a headache and feel generally low. But I expect it'll be better tomorrow.

Pix, I'm sorry about the perception problems. And I hope the newbies get up to speed about what's actually happening, soon.

Hmmm. Dinner might help with the headache. Maybe pizza.


billytea - May 12, 2011 2:20:55 pm PDT #21268 of 30000
You were a wrong baby who grew up wrong. The wrong kind of wrong. It's better you hear it from a friend.

The other huge thing I learned is that I can't trust everyone I thought I could trust, so I'll be a lot more careful about talking about any of this at work. I'll vent here instead. Aren't you all lucky?

Well, yes. Yes we are. I'm sorry about the workplace dramas, like you need any more stress in your life. At least your own higher-ups are on-side. Hopefully it'll improve with time and they realise that you're not secretly bathing in the blood of middle schoolers as part of your daily beauty regimen. (It's actually a morale-building exercise.)


brenda m - May 12, 2011 3:36:49 pm PDT #21269 of 30000
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there

My entire department is just a snakepit of politics right now. Both inside the group and in terms of where we sit in the organizational structure.

I'm anticipating basically a hostile takeover by a department that we reported through but were independent of. They have little or no understanding of what we do or how challenging it is. (To be fair, I know little of what they do except that it involves leaving regularly by five and turning into a ghost town on Friday afternoons all summer.) It's not gonna be good.

And meanwhile the group itself is a freaking powder keg, with a lot of new and not very mature people stirring up trouble all over the place and man, something's going to blow soon. I'm able to stay above the fray more there, thank god, because my position right now is kind of a hybrid where I don't report to the head of the group, I report one level above that, and kind of control my own workflow.

But both of these things are coming to a head and jebus, it's gonna get ugly.

(And meantime, our contract with our largest client is getting ready to expire so I've been tapped to lead that whole effort with everyone in the freaking world wanting to throw themselves into it and the highest levels of firm leadership watching like hawks. I spend so much time managing the personalities I don't even know how I'm going to manage to actually do the work.)


beekaytee - May 12, 2011 4:36:07 pm PDT #21270 of 30000
Compassionately intolerant

This is a question specifically for msbelle, but is posed to anyone who feels any level of competency with selling things. (I feel no such competence, thus, the request)

Should a person like myself...okay, I...be in a position that requires putting a PLAN in place to sell most of my stuff...like in the event of a move...what are the best strategies?

This has been a huge challenge to me in the past and I just can't let it get me down anymore. Practicality demands turning stuff into cash!

By stuff, I mean books, vintage fine jewelry, vintage clothes, vintage decorative stuff, a Spin cycle, vintage postcards and travel slides, a few pieces of smallish furniture, and small appliances. The miscellaneous houseware stuff will go into a yard sale.

In the past, I have been completely intimidated by ebay, struck out on craigslist and have no idea which avenues are best for which type of item.

I need a game plan.

What has worked best for you? What would you avoid?

I'm going to be around until later this evening, but will be completely away from the computer Fri-Mon...working on the PLAN.

I would deeply, deeply appreciate email at profile addy with any specific suggestions.


DavidS - May 12, 2011 4:51:00 pm PDT #21271 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

Are you moving, bonny?


beekaytee - May 12, 2011 5:03:04 pm PDT #21272 of 30000
Compassionately intolerant

I may have to. It seems that my landlord is moving to sell the building...and is being very cagey about it.

I figure it is better to be prepared than get caught out.

I have lived here for 12 years and have ZERO desire to move. At the same time, back in the days when I DID move, it was a great opportunity for off-loading.

I'm not a collector, so don't have that much, but what I DO have, I want to make the most of.


§ ita § - May 12, 2011 5:44:44 pm PDT #21273 of 30000
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.

msbelle doesn't post in Bitches, bonny.


beekaytee - May 12, 2011 6:20:50 pm PDT #21274 of 30000
Compassionately intolerant

Thanks so much ita!

Off to cross-post.


WindSparrow - May 12, 2011 6:53:20 pm PDT #21275 of 30000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.

The other huge thing I learned is that I can't trust everyone I thought I could trust, so I'll be a lot more careful about talking about any of this at work. I'll vent here instead. Aren't you all lucky?

I'm in favor of pretty much anything that will bring you here at any given time. I am also in favor of everyone feeling safe to vent here, because that means it is ok for me, too. However, I'm not in favor of you feeling so stressed out. So thbbbbpt on the new teachers.


Seska (the Watcher-in-Training) - May 12, 2011 9:23:48 pm PDT #21276 of 30000
"We're all stories, in the end. Just make it a good one, eh?"

Pix, I'm really sorry to hear about the work politics. I was assistant head of a department for a while, which was a total politics nightmare, so I can relate. I hope it improves.

Huge yay for the job interview, smonster! Much interview~ma for the day itself.

Wedding Day #1 of 2. Today we do the legal bit (which isn't particularly romantic, but LGBT people in the UK did fight for the right to form civil partnerships, so yay that!), then our families meet (I may be sick). Should be an interesting day...! Happily, I have a hotel room with (another) massage and a manicure awaiting me in between.

Keep up the no-rain~ma! They've changed the forecast from thunderstorms to scattered showers, so it's working!