I finally got a chance to ride the Harry Potter ride at Islands of Adventure today. It's pretty damned cool, but Jilli shouldn't ever ride it, ever. EVER. EVER. Which is a shame, because I think there are parts of it she'd really love.

I have been told that by many people about that ride. Which IS a shame, but I think even with being warned when I would need to shut my eyes, I would still freak out.

Ooh, I wanna go on the Harry Potter ride!! Luckily I am not Jilli.

Aren't there women who enjoy occasional sex with men, but still identify as lesbian rather than bisexual because women remain their primary sexual interest?

...meh. Yes, I suppose so. It was the fact that it's less "I also happen to like women" and more the specificity and the act. I dunno. I'm not sure why it startles and puzzles me so much--having a woman say she likes girls except occasionally really wants to give a blowjob? Isn't quite as weird to me?

because there's a cultural assumption that no one *enjoys* performing cunnilingus just for the fun of it and it's some kind of chore to get a partner to go down on you?

That may be true, erin. I may have been warped by society. Sigh. Stupid society.

I think it's also that most of the gay men I know are much more extreme on the kinsey scale than most of the women I know.

I've sometimes wondered if there are fewer bisexual/mid-kinsey men than women because of social pressures. Maybe it's (very arguably) more difficult for men to come out than women, for social reasons, and therefore men are more likely to come out as gay than bi. Disclaimer: I have not tested this theory under proper social-scientific conditions.

Oh, I totally believe that's part of it, Seska--while there's a certain number of women who hang out with lesbians and are loathe to call themselves bisexual due to that social pressure, it's wayyyyy less than the number of men who are strictly gay because a lot of women wouldn't date a man who says he's bisexual for fear he's really going to run off with a man. (Why is running off with a man always the expected default? Lesbians are afraid of it with bisexual women, straight women are afraid of it with bisexual men! What's up with that?)

Why is running off with a man always the expected default?

The internal feminist (who gets louder the later it gets) in me reckons it's because women are socialised to think that love and sex revolve around men.

I'm always quite amused by the (stereotypical representation of) lesbian fear that bi girls are going to run off with the nearest man. I'd be about 90% more likely to run off with a woman.

I'm surprised that the guy's BF walks in and thinks this means the guy has always been straight. If you've been having 20 years of gay sex and 2 years of straight oral sex, isn't the conclusion to leap to that the person is bi? I mean, if you're no longer letting them label themselves?

I respect the right to self-identify, but then again, there comes a point where we're not communicating efficiently anymore, because the words have so many meanings.