My brother still feels that way about his dog, too.

he feels like he betrayed Tzepesh's trust by making the choice to let him go.

In my little cat, Pookie's, last days I was following her down the hall one day and watched her give herself a little shake and knock herself over because she had gotten so frail. I felt like the most selfish jerk for keeping her alive that way because I couldn't bear to lose her. I don't share to be all mememe, but just to say that really no matter where you fall on the too soon/too late spectrum, you will always feel like hell, and it always sucks. I hope Pete (and you) feels much better soon. {{{Pete & Jilli}}}

Fred, sorry for your loss as well. I know you did everything you could. Much peace to you.

When Mouse died, Hubby hated himself because he'd been telling himself over and over that Mouse was getting better while I was quietly thinking that Mouse was fading away. And Hubby felt he'd made Mouse's last weeks harder than they had to be by hanging on to hope that wasn't there.

The big guys are softies, and when they get hit, they get hit hard.

Gud, smonster, I'm so upset and verschimmlt on your behalf. I urgently hope good things for both of you, and very soon.

Jilli, I'm dreadfully sorry for you, and even moreso for Pete. You guys did absolutely everything you could for Tzepesh, including letting him go when his life was more burden than his little body could support any longer. It always hurts us, even when it's the best thing for them. All my wishes for comfort and ease, for both of you.

Fred, I'm so very sorry about Victor. You and Hubs were the absolute best things to ever have happened in his short life, and you made it a wonderful life while you had him. Again, the choice to let go is always a painfully hard one for the folks left behind. But all too often it's the most generous and loving one for them. You guys are in my thoughts of ease and comfort, too.

Zen, I hope you're feeling better. Seska, you too.

And the rest of you. Do I need to come out there with blankets and cups of tea?

All this loss and sympathy is making me cry at my desk.

{{{Jilli & Pete}}} I'm so, so sorry. This has been such an awful year for so many of us, you in particular. When I was emailing you earlier, I hadn't checked the board. I just wish things would ease up for you.

Damn, Gud Many hugs and job-finding ~ma to you as well.

{{{FredPete}}} So sorry about Victor.

This has just not been a good day for Buffistas. DNW.

And added feel better~ma to Zen and Seska, for sure.

I hear you, Nora.

Everything Barb said to everyone, seconded.

Thankfully I'm not at a desk or sitting on a stack of 2x4s on a job site, because I am totally crying. Oh Jilli, oh Pete, oh Fred Pete, oh Hubs. My heart goes out to you all. I've been there and will be again, and there is no way to make it not suck heartily.

Jilli, I'm glad you feel safe venting here. If there's anything we can do besides listen/read, please say.

Oh Jilli, oh Pete, oh Fred Pete, oh Hubs. My heart goes out to you all.

Yes. So much.