Harken: You fought with Captain Reynolds in the war? Zoe: Fought with a lot of people in the war. Harken: And your husband? Zoe: Fight with him sometimes, too.

'Bushwhacked'


Spike's Bitches 46: Don't I get a cookie?  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


beekaytee - Apr 09, 2011 2:11:22 pm PDT #19437 of 30000
Compassionately intolerant

Bless you both for making the end of her life filled with love and comfort. Godspeed Chloe.


DavidS - Apr 09, 2011 2:59:10 pm PDT #19438 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

We used to ask Emmett's godmother to put their dog away when we came over. I didn't think it was that big of a deal. The dog was biggish, untrained and rambunctious (but sweet). But Emmett was a toddler and the dog would knock him down, and hard, multiple times. He was getting hurt every time we came over.

Also, the dog would steal food off your plate if you weren't constantly vigilant. She was a sneaky, fearless, bearded collie that needed an entire herd of sheep to keep her entertained.

I don't think the guest has the right to ask for accommodations, but it's incumbent on the host to make them comfortable.

I do believe if the dog's not trained and jumping on people then it's on the owners to ensure the dog isn't all over the guests. If that means crating him for a couple hours then that isn't exactly going to hurt the dog.

I don't think...

But in an attempt to mitigate that, we tell EVERYONE - push him down if you don't want him.

...this is okay. Nobody should have to push Ollie off a dozen times. That's your responsibility as owners to keep him off, not theirs.


Sparky1 - Apr 09, 2011 3:10:23 pm PDT #19439 of 30000
Librarian Warlord

bonny, I just left you a voice mail message.


Jessica - Apr 09, 2011 3:26:49 pm PDT #19440 of 30000
And then Ortus came and said "It's Ortin' time" and they all Orted off into the sunset

I don't think the guest has the right to ask for accommodations, but it's incumbent on the host to make them comfortable.

I think guests have every right to ask for accommodations. However, the time to do this is BEFORE accepting the invitation, not at the front door.


DavidS - Apr 09, 2011 3:33:14 pm PDT #19441 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

However, the time to do this is BEFORE accepting the invitation, not at the front door.

It's not a one-off dinner party, though. It's a regular game night. So it's not that formal, and if they've asked for it before then there's an expectation that's been created.

For good or ill, it's a situation that's evolved (devolved?) because there are unspoken expectations on both sides that probably need to be addressed directly.

If Aimee and Joe are unwilling to put their dog away they should alert their friends before the next game night.


Calli - Apr 09, 2011 3:47:10 pm PDT #19442 of 30000
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs

Sue, I'm glad your dad's home. I hope you have a blast at the show!


Hil R. - Apr 09, 2011 4:04:29 pm PDT #19443 of 30000
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l

My mom was in the hospital again last night, but everything's fine. She was having chest pains, but none of the tests found anything wrong.


Liese S. - Apr 09, 2011 4:05:27 pm PDT #19444 of 30000
"Faded like the lilac, he thought."

Yeah, I've been thinking about this, and I agree with David. I don't think it's an unreasonable request to ask that the dog be out of the way of the baby. We put the biscuit in his kennel for most visitors, or at least most of their visit, and he's a well behaved, quiet dog. But he is an affection-seeker, and I don't want to tell guests to push him away, because not everyone is comfortable with that, and people sometimes will put up with it in an effort to be polite when they don't really enjoy it.

We especially do it for Navajo and Apache guests who have cultural objections to the dog being in the house at all.


Hil R. - Apr 09, 2011 4:07:33 pm PDT #19445 of 30000
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l

Yeah, a dog bigger than about 20 pounds jumping up on me or barking in my face will freak me out.


§ ita § - Apr 09, 2011 4:16:53 pm PDT #19446 of 30000
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.

In a perfect world, no one's pet would initiate contact with me, ever. I dig that it's not a perfect world, and it's my job to keep them off me. I appreciate it when it's an easy job, though. If I had to consider keeping a dog off my kid I'd probably just not visit, though. That seems like a full time occupation.