bonny, I just left you a voice mail message.
There are cockroaches in Mexico big enough to own property.
Cordelia ,'Lessons'
Spike's Bitches 46: Don't I get a cookie?
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Sparky1 - Apr 09, 2011 3:10:23 pm PDT #19439 of 30000
Librarian Warlord
Jessica - Apr 09, 2011 3:26:49 pm PDT #19440 of 30000
And then Ortus came and said "It's Ortin' time" and they all Orted off into the sunset
I don't think the guest has the right to ask for accommodations, but it's incumbent on the host to make them comfortable.
I think guests have every right to ask for accommodations. However, the time to do this is BEFORE accepting the invitation, not at the front door.
DavidS - Apr 09, 2011 3:33:14 pm PDT #19441 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
However, the time to do this is BEFORE accepting the invitation, not at the front door.
It's not a one-off dinner party, though. It's a regular game night. So it's not that formal, and if they've asked for it before then there's an expectation that's been created.
For good or ill, it's a situation that's evolved (devolved?) because there are unspoken expectations on both sides that probably need to be addressed directly.
If Aimee and Joe are unwilling to put their dog away they should alert their friends before the next game night.
Calli - Apr 09, 2011 3:47:10 pm PDT #19442 of 30000
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs
Sue, I'm glad your dad's home. I hope you have a blast at the show!
Hil R. - Apr 09, 2011 4:04:29 pm PDT #19443 of 30000
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l
My mom was in the hospital again last night, but everything's fine. She was having chest pains, but none of the tests found anything wrong.
Liese S. - Apr 09, 2011 4:05:27 pm PDT #19444 of 30000
"Faded like the lilac, he thought."
Yeah, I've been thinking about this, and I agree with David. I don't think it's an unreasonable request to ask that the dog be out of the way of the baby. We put the biscuit in his kennel for most visitors, or at least most of their visit, and he's a well behaved, quiet dog. But he is an affection-seeker, and I don't want to tell guests to push him away, because not everyone is comfortable with that, and people sometimes will put up with it in an effort to be polite when they don't really enjoy it.
We especially do it for Navajo and Apache guests who have cultural objections to the dog being in the house at all.
Hil R. - Apr 09, 2011 4:07:33 pm PDT #19445 of 30000
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l
Yeah, a dog bigger than about 20 pounds jumping up on me or barking in my face will freak me out.
§ ita § - Apr 09, 2011 4:16:53 pm PDT #19446 of 30000
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
In a perfect world, no one's pet would initiate contact with me, ever. I dig that it's not a perfect world, and it's my job to keep them off me. I appreciate it when it's an easy job, though. If I had to consider keeping a dog off my kid I'd probably just not visit, though. That seems like a full time occupation.
Scrappy - Apr 09, 2011 4:23:11 pm PDT #19447 of 30000
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
If Ollie is the kind of doggie that would knock over a toddler, I would put him away when one came over as a matter of course. One of our cats is cranky, and we put her away if there are kids too young to understand not to pet her. For she WILL bite you, oh yes. If it was a regular thing like game night, I'd make a deal, like maybe you trade off-they only bring the kid every other time or or something like that.
Jessica - Apr 09, 2011 4:59:23 pm PDT #19448 of 30000
And then Ortus came and said "It's Ortin' time" and they all Orted off into the sunset
David, for the most part I agree, but I don't think formality has anything to do with it. It's a scheduled event - these people know that game night is coming up and they know that they don't want Ollie around the baby. Common courtesy says they can give Aimee and Joe a call at any time during the week to ask if they'd mind keeping Ollie out of the room when they're there. Springing it on them at the front door is rude no matter how reasonable the request.