Speaking as a person who is occasionally fat in public, I have gotten more negative comments while being physically active than at the grocery store.
Can we maybe vote on the whole murdering people issue?
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WindSparrow - Feb 07, 2011 8:21:19 am PST #15047 of 30000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
erin_obscure - Feb 07, 2011 8:46:14 am PST #15048 of 30000
Occasionally I’m callous and strange
I silently mutter encouragement to ppl at the gym who look like they are really struggling, for whatever reason. Can't imagine actually saying anything negative. Astonishingly rude.
erin_obscure - Feb 07, 2011 8:54:39 am PST #15049 of 30000
Occasionally I’m callous and strange
in slightly related news: i took a belly dancing class last night (immediately before my hula hooping class...sort of as a warm up) for the first time which was super fun. I was praised for my excellent shimmy. Yes, my wide hips and soft belly are perfect for something! It was guiltily gratifying to be clearly excelling over the skinny ladies in the class who had been enough times to develop wardrobes but couldn't move their hips or get a gratifying hip scarf jingle. Guilty because i was judging them for being skinny. Gratifying because i can be just a wee bit competitive when it comes to anything dance-related and am always uber conscious of usually being the roundest person in the room.
Shir - Feb 07, 2011 9:02:27 am PST #15050 of 30000
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".
While I feel very uncomfortable during shopping for very different reasons (supermarkets are symbols of death. Too much critical sociology, I know) I cannot believe the rude people are! I can't imagine commenting on other people's choices or make faces at them. And that's coming from an Israeli.
Oh, and thanks for the ice cream, y'all. Got new boots!
Scrappy - Feb 07, 2011 9:05:20 am PST #15051 of 30000
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
Why would ANYONE make negative comments about anyone of any size doing something healthy like exercising?
beekaytee - Feb 07, 2011 9:07:22 am PST #15052 of 30000
Compassionately intolerant
No kidding. Quite apart from never speaking ill to strangers who are not hurting anyone being a thing...if you actually have the brainspace to negatively judge someone else's choices, wouldn't you want to be supportive.
Of course, shut the hell up is always a better option.
Fred Pete - Feb 07, 2011 9:10:10 am PST #15053 of 30000
Ann, that's a ferret.
Why would ANYONE make negative comments about anyone of any size doing something healthy like exercising?
Not a good idea to tear down someone who's at least making an effort. As for criticizing what's in the grocery cart, only a good friend who's expressing concern for my welfare even has a chance of getting away with it.
Laga - Feb 07, 2011 9:14:29 am PST #15054 of 30000
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.
In jr high a 'friend' of mine shouted at a jogger, "Keep running, honey!" I never spoke to her again.
beekaytee - Feb 07, 2011 9:17:41 am PST #15055 of 30000
Compassionately intolerant
We have a seasonal jogging surge around here several times per year. I will occasionally murmur a 'great job' to a struggling passerby. Mostly, I show my respect for the effort by briskly getting out of the way.
Cashmere - Feb 07, 2011 9:27:13 am PST #15056 of 30000
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